(Men’s Conference) What Guy Wouldn’t Want It? Young Male Victimization Experiences With Female-Perpetrated Stranger Sexual Harassment by C.Erentizen and others, Toronto Metropolitan and York Universities, Toronto Canada.

Stranger Harassment: Unwanted attention from a stranger (high percentage of women report regular experiences). This causes a negative impact on mental health and body image. Historically this was men to women. It is happening in the digital age. Public spaces have changed as we move online. Technology - facilitated sexual violence (TFSU). Unsolicited nudes; solicitation; generally aversive to recipients, leads to shame, disgust; anger. Male victims show significant psychological distress. Participants 323, male identified, ages 16 to 23. (M=19.45). Prevalence of female perpetrators harassment in the past year; seven in person items, 5 on line items - open - ended description. Prevalence: one third - none consensual touching; 20% received nude pictures and 10% money in exchange for sex. Three women bothered a male on a bus. He said no, he had a girlfriend and had to get off the bus. It was unwanted and uncomfortable. Aggressive women: She touched me and wouldn’t leave me alone. Aggressive and non consensual touching/assault. Woman kept touching his crotch. “I hated it and didn’t know what to do. She was laughing.” There was a second study of 261 male identified (16-23 of age). Same results. Study Two: Question imposed. How did you change so this doesn’t happen. Avoidance locations: 58%, choose clothing: 50%, unsafe on transit 50%. About 25% had to get off line. Themes: In person 6-19. Sexual abuse and assault, older women, gender role conflict. 15 year old and “woman came and fondled me.” 15 year old and mom’s friend - Kissed and touched him and he didn’t know what to do. "Woman got off the bus and wanted me to go to a different location." "I was nine - cousin's friend - kissed him and touched him and he didn't know what to do. In another case a female went on him for a lap dance which he didn’t want and she called him a pussy. There was a huge experience of being asked for nude pictures on line. Conclusion: There is prevalence among young males. Begins early, is unwanted and has serious impact. Future Directions: - intersectional identifies - Intervention and educational strategies. It is ok to say no to a female. This is not ok. There is more I have to report from the conference. Unfortunately I have to miss it this year because I will be at Word on The Street. I will have to also miss the American Association of Family Therapy Conference because they are having it in person and of course I cannot leave Mr Attitude. Oh well.