AAMFT Conference - Notes……Continue - Adult Attachment: Developing Secure Attachments.

 Dismissing Attachment

Unresolved

Deep fear of relationships.    Sees relationships as dangerous where ever they can be (distant parents.  He didn't even know the names of his three children).   Angry parent, detachment, abusive. 

Intimate relationships can be dangerous for them as they see it.  Difficulty sleeping, concentrating, difficulty in sex relationships.  In more extreme cases dissociate and may not recall events or their whereabouts.

FOCUS OF THERAPY

     1.  Creating a secure base in therapy. 

     2.  Memories of early childhood are recalled and explored.

     3.   Exploration of current relationships.

     4.   The therapeutic relationship.

     5.  Mourning loss.

     6.  Loss of self.

     7.  Mindful acceptance of the limits of one's attachment.  Externalizing change.

     8.  Risking change in every day life.

     9.  Termination.

Goal of Therapy

     Gain awareness of and express feelings and needs.

     Develop greater capacity for intimacy.

Preoccupied Clients:

- to develop autonomy.

-to develop affect regulation with the capacity to express needs, wants and feeling in a regulated manner.

Theology continues - notes - In the Shadow of your wings

 

     What we see in Samuel is the forming of Israel.  The Sinai Covenant is where we have tribes and their God - stamp of God.  It is God who brings in this new order.  We have the constant voice of about trust.  The rise and fall of Saul -  the first Adam.  The Adam in Genesis. 

     The rise of David.   He brought the arch of the desert into the city.  There is a tension between God and the City.   How is God asking us to act and to organize ourselves?  One way of looking at this is that one view is there is only one God the desert and trust is needed.  Desire for kingship.   Enter into civilization where you have stability.  The Lord will rule over you.  

     With the fall of Saul and the rise of David we notice stories where Saul falls from God in his trust issues.  Moving historically from Egypt is one.   How does Israel use Convenant language?  Presents Israel as new David.  What do they do with the new covenants?  Johnathon is enlisting into his field of activity.  First Johnathon  for David and then Johnathon recognizes David as a superior and asks David to support his family.

Deut 6:4   SHEMA ISRZEL ADONAI ELOHEMU SDONAI EHAD

     Moses presents before the people their sins.  Reflect on God's love.  Chapters  1-11 historical prologue we have a series of benefits of what is done for the people.  It's a reflection of their history which helps them make a decision.  

     The genius of this book is the history of love and also the blindness (so not all is good {not realistic} and not all is evil {depressing}).

     Crossing of the Jordan River -  now is the moment when you have no land, no King; no temple.  This is the time in the desert.  This is the Amen and with this Amen there is hope.

to  continue

 

These people came to my property at 1145 pm, 2 Jul 26 and stole my planter - so annoying and with a wheel chair really - Return

    If you want to see the video, you are going to have to see it either in X, facebook or next door.  I could not seem to link it here.

    I cannot believe how fast time flies.  Our city has been busy with FIFA and I only kept track of scores.  Everyone seemed glued to the games.  I am glad everyone enjoyed my city so much.  Yup,  I still want to leave to the beautiful falls and it appears the housing market may change so wish me luck.  Neither Trump nor Musk seemed interested in buying my house.  The weather has been a scorcher and it is incredible that there are those who do not believe that our planet is dangerously warming up globally.

     I am glad that I live in a country that offers air conditioning.   I want to wish the Americans a Happy Jul 4th.   I will be taping the Disney celebrations because as you should know by now,  I love Disney World and could easily live on the grounds in bliss.  So have a good weekend world and be safe.  I will try to get back to normal next week.

Happy Canada Day - I am going to love it!!!!!!!! BBQ waiting for me!

 

Navigating AI's Complicated Role in Systemic Therapy (AI is in my next book)

 

Writer's Corner

I attended a Sisters of Crime webinar 9 Apr 26 and God know's which one.  The speaker stated that 56% of all books are romance.  The speaker herself wrote two dozen books herself and was unsuccessful up to that point.  What does she wish she had done?  Started to do a newsletter.  I still don't have a newsletter but I have a blog which I post on Face book, linkedin and twitter.   The blog is consistent and I consider what I copy elsewhere.  At times I do post on Face book and not anywhere else.  I am still exploring an actual newsletter but will keep the blog and charge for the newsletter.  How does that sound?  I will have to put something more on the newsletter, to make it worthwhile.   I haven't decided that yet.  I want to take my time, explore my options, and look at what is real and what isn't.  That is the tough part.  She continued to say she wished she had put up a reader magnet.  Give a taste of my writing.  I think you already have more than a taste of that.  You have read me when I am busy, when I am relaxed, when I am playful and when I'm not.  She explained it has to have personal stories connected to books.  Well with Military Policewoman, For Love of Country it is about my own career.  My focus is on the social aspects of the time.  There is a lot I did not say because I have to be mindful of security, so it wasn't about telling anything that I should not, but that was ok.  I think that women considering joining a police force or military might benefit from it, though it is mostly military men and Jewish men who buy it.   Third on the list are Middle Eastern women.   I have men contact me who have served and disappeared but connected with my book and wanted me to know.  Then they would disappear again.  When others can connect to my book, it does warm the heart.

Her final wish was to put her books on delivery.   I do that.  You can order my books on line, but again I am exploring my options since I do not even break even due to the cost of delivery.  She said we should use AI for pictures.   I do not.   On redigondapsychotherapy.com.   I took all the photos and am seriously thinking of keeping it and changing the handle.  She said we should be consistent with newsletters.  We should write once a week and when we have a book coming out.  

That is all for now.   Have a good weekend.   Balance your time with play and work.  What do you think?

to be continued.

 

AAMFT Conference - Notes……Continue - Adult Attachment: Developing Secure Attachments.

How this affects Couples and Families

Same function as in Childhood.  Need a secure base; someone to support them, protect them, offer them security and nurturance, particularly during stress and invulnerability.   We are seeing more insecure adults now than 20 years ago.

Pre-occupied attachments -  need close relationship; seek approval from other and fear being detached.  Overly dependent on intimate others and cling to partners; are hypersensitive to unavailability or abandonments.  

Extremely jealous etc…  Have great difficulty making independent decisions.   Rely on others but needs many opinions.

 

To be continued.