Notes:
Labelling Emotions: I am not bad, I feel the sadness - describe the sadness-describe the feeling - emptiness. Why should I have fun if they can’t anymore. They are quite fatigued - feel their soul and recharge. Clients hold so much shame. “I can’t do this - too sad.” Then say in a gentle way, “You’re choosing this and you can choose. This can take you from a deeper depression and will move in small steps. “You have choices.” Show them they do have the problem to change.
“You too are precious and deserving.” I am worthy of a good life. I am worthy of happiness. Is this behaviour and will it enforce you’re choosing to stay in depression?
“Let’s look at the achievements in your life.” “Think about that on your cruise.”
“Let’s look at your life and how you came out?”
When the storm hits: Can’t stand the pain. Ice water to splash on face, intense exercise, paced, breathing.
Five senses: hear, see, touch, smell, taste. Distractive, activities, moves. Contributing: Do something kind for another person. Movement. How would you sit if you were confident?
Emotional states can be influenced by a movement.
Letter writing, Guided Imagery, Empty chair, Legacy books.
Aunt had committed suicide. Thought of once together. Aunt said thanksgiving. What was it like a year later? Mother was working in the kitchen and screamed, “I miss my sister.” This is a woman who tried to commit suicide. “Imagine visiting you at the cemetery.
scenario two: Going through a troubled time. Now pick up the phone and ask, “How did you go through it?”
Continuing with Imagery helps………
Before going to the Conference I had received an email indicating that I could get a review of the first one or two pages of my next book. How can I resist? I like my own publisher/editor but I did want the freebie. She wanted to know about the next book and believe it or not I am quite reserved about telling too much until I have at least mailed a copy to myself by registered mail. Two pages wouldn't hurt. I thought she would check grammar structure etc....However, she was focused on two things - two of my characters, one being that I was perhaps stereo typing and the other the focus on my imaginary client. She felt it was too heavy. Well, you have been reading my notes for quite some time. I have attended many lectures, conference and with two degrees with a focus on psychology plus post grad well, I can assure you it is heavy. Thus I do use a character to lighten it. I feel comfortable doing so because I like my character. In my life I have seen so many people and do not hesitate to blend any in my characters. I do not write to appease anyone particular person I may be offending. I write fiction. It is my story. It is my character. I kill people (in my books only people). Listening to the Editor I thought that it should take priority over personality. So, I thought of perhaps teaching at an University in my book to explain to students what is happening in a therapy room something similar to my notes. But I probably won't. My story is about a therapist because my readers have consistently asked if I write about therapy. They seemed disappointed. I could not before because then it would have been too much. I was more comfortable killing people. Now, I can take the leap and join the two interests. The Editor wanted me to talk more about the client. I will not. It is my story and the main focus is killing people and not clients. Clients in the book are meant to educate a bit about problems that people in general experience and some things are horrific. It is not meant to be the focus. I am not saying they will not be killed. Good talk. Have a good weekend.
