Complaint about postage to States for Book 2 - Thank you. Plus not wanted at festival in the city of York, Eglinton and Marlee

I received my first complaint and I am pleased. I had a 20.00 surcharge for the States and I reduced it by 10.00. I think I have it right. I do not know if I am on the right track unless I get complaints. So, far I have no complaints from Canadians and one from an American. Please be patient with me while I get this all sorted out. Book Two, For Love of Country Military Policewoman stirs a lot of emotion just by the title (actually my first book did too, come to think about it). As I had mentioned, one woman sneered as she walked by my table where I was signing as she read out the title. They are having a festivity in the City of York which is the old, Toronto 10. I contacted the organizer to see if I could have a spot by email. She wanted to know what my books were about and then I had no more replies. I debated pushing this and decided not to. I like to pick my battles and this will not be one of them. However, I am always interested in human behavior. The more different concepts are between people, the more one is tempted to avoid the other. I consider this bias. You are not like me, you do not think like me therefore stay away please. As a therapist I need to always examine my self. I am always growing and learning from those around me and through education. Even when I think that something completely revolts me, I find that my compassion and empathy over powers the revulsion and that is how I am growing. I understand that many people have a complete hatred for the military and all it stands for. I understand that others have a powerful respect. There are people who hate police. Hate is very powerful and when emotions are stirred I suggest you ask yourself why? Why do I feel this way? Why do I hate this? This all takes work. Recently, I was asked why a person cannot let go their hatred for a person. I cannot simply answer such a complicated question from a casual encounter. However, when one wants revenge, to hurt, to humiliate it is rather difficult to let go. Hate does not magically disappear with a magic wand. It takes more time than a casual remark. However, when people are in charge of anything they need to be able to keep their minds open. When people want to censor books based on titles or anything they hate or dislike, they should keep in mind that perhaps if they cannot be open to everyone in a community it may be time for reflection. It is so easy to look at the other person as the bad guy. So, if my book merely provokes by its title without even knowing its contents, so be it. I have accomplished something. You do not even have to read my book to be completely annoyed with it. However, remember that we do live in a free country and if I wanted to make a thing out of this, I could. You have the choice to buy or not buy but you don't really have a choice to decide who can be banned because you do not like the topic. What do you think? My books are not restricted. Have a wonderful weekend. Enjoy your freedom and read what you consider is a good book.

PTSD comments

I suppose you are aware that I am interested in PTSD as it pertains to the military, police and other emergency personnel. Of course I have an interest in all persons but why I like to reach out to emergency personnel, is because I understand the mindset, which reduces the time of trying to understand that portion. If you are suffering from PTSD, know that you do not have to suffer alone. There is help. You are not alone. The worse that one can do is keep all the feelings within. I understand that there is a stigma. I understand that working among people who consider suffering a weakness can be traumatic in itself. Know that as a therapist in a private practice I do not report to your workplace. What is said between therapist and client is kept confidential. The only time I would have to report is if there is harm to a child, a physical threat to another or if I believe you are going to commit suicide. I have to really believe it and what I may do is ask for a contract where you promise me that you will not commit suicide while seeing me. That is the first move towards moving forward to healing. The only other way I have to report is if there is a court order. I do not report to any organization. No one needs to know that you are seeing me. Why not begin to change your life. Take that first step. What do you think?

PTSD brochure from CAMH - For your info

DO YOU NEED MORE HELP? Contact a community organization like the Canadian Mental Health Association to learn more about support and resources in your area. Founded in 1918, The Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA) is a national charity that helps maintain and improve mental health for all Canadians. As the nation-wide leader and champion for mental health, CMHA helps people access the community resources they need to build resilience and support recovery from mental illness. Visit the CMHA website at www.cmha.ca today. Development of this brochure generously supported by © 2014 56315-05/14 www.cmha.ca POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER Frightening situations happen to everyone at some point. People can react in many different ways: they might feel nervous, have a hard time sleeping well, or go over the details of the situation in their mind. These thoughts or experiences are a normal reaction. They usually decrease over time and the people involved can go back to their daily lives. Post-traumatic stress disorder, on the other hand, lasts much longer and can seriously disrupt a person’s life. WHAT IS POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER? Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental illness. It involves exposure to trauma involving death or the threat of death, serious injury, or sexual violence. Something is traumatic when it is very frightening, overwhelming and causes a lot of distress. Trauma is often unexpected, and many people say that they felt powerless to stop or change the event. Traumatic events may include crimes, natural disasters, accidents, war or conflict, or other threats to life. It could be an event or situation that you experience yourself or something that happens to others, including loved ones. PTSD causes intrusive symptoms such as re- experiencing the traumatic event. Many people have vivid nightmares, flashbacks, or thoughts of the event that seem to come from nowhere. They often avoid things that remind them of the event—for example, someone who was hurt in a car crash might avoid driving. PTSD can make people feel very nervous or ‘on edge’ all the time. Many feel startled very easily, have a hard time concentrating, feel irritable, or have problems sleeping well. They may often feel like something terrible is about to happen, even when they are safe. Some people feel very numb and detached. They may feel like things around them aren’t real, feel disconnected from their body or thoughts, or have a hard time feeling emotions. People also experience a change in their thoughts and mood related to the traumatic event. For some people, alcohol or other drugs can be a way to cope with PTSD. WHO DOES IT AFFECT? While most people experience trauma at some point in their life, not all traumatic experiences lead to PTSD. We aren’t sure why trauma causes PTSD in some people but not others, but it’s likely linked to many different factors. This includes the length of time the trauma lasted, the number of other traumatic experiences in a person’s life, their reaction to the event, and the kind of support they received after the event. Some jobs or occupations put people in dangerous situations. Military personnel, first responders (police, firefighters, and paramedics), doctors, and nurses experience higher rates of PTSD than other professions. Trauma is not always a single event in the past. Some trauma, particularly repeated acts like abuse or trauma during wartime, can impact a person’s life far beyond the symptoms of PTSD. Some use other terms like ‘complex PTSD’ to describe these experiences. WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT IT? Many people feel a lot of guilt or shame around PTSD because we’re often told that we should just get over difficult experiences. Others may feel embarrassed talking with others. Some people even feel like it’s somehow their own fault. Trauma is hurtful. If you experience problems in your life related to trauma, it’s important to take your feelings seriously and talk to a health care professional. Counselling A type of counselling called cognitive-behavioural therapy (or ‘CBT’) has been shown to be effective for PTSD. CBT teaches you how your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours work together and how to deal with problems and stress. You can also learn skills like relaxation and techniques to bring you back to the present. You can learn and practice many skills in CBT on your own. Exposure therapy, which can help you talk about your experience and reduce avoidance, may also help. It may be included in CBT or used on its own. Medication Medication, such as antianxiety medication or antidepressant medication, may help with anxiety itself, as well as related problems like depression or sleep difficulties. Talk to your doctor if you’d like to learn more about medication options. Support groups Support groups can also help. They are a place to share your own experiences and learn from others, and help you connect with people who understand what you’re going through. There may also be support groups for loved ones affected by PTSD.

Conversion Therapy (Tid bit of info for you)

Conversion Therapy Conversion Therapy is outside the bounds of acceptable practice and that intentionally seeking change or direct a client’s sexual orientation and or gender identity is considered professional misconduct.

Meal for 1.00 for the poor (with dignity)

If I ever win the lottery, this is one thing that I would like to expand. I didn't even know about it until in grad school, when I dropped off a student who was working there. As I am cleaning up my files and catching up with paper war, I came across the card, called them and was happy to see that they still exist. Lunch or supper for a full meal and I believe dessert is included, costs $1.00. It is the Capuchin Outreach to the poor (my classmate, you guessed it is a Capuchin). It is the St Francis Table, at 1322 Queen Street West in Toronto. So, if you are hungry why not treat yourself for $1.00. It will be closed from 14 Aug to Sep 8, 2015. In Canada there should be no reason why anyone should ever be hungry. For that matter, no one should ever be hungry. Because there is hunger in the world, we are all responsible.

Pan Am Games, Closing Ceremonies - Excitement for Pit Bull

Canada played great even though the U.S. won more medals. I am not really a sports fan and had no intention of seeing the games but when I heard Pit Bull was coming I was all in, even if I had to tolerate Mr West. There were an enormous amount of signatures from Canadians not wanting Kanya West. I didn't even know who he was until they mentioned who he was married to and showed a clip of him interrupting the music award when North America's sweetheart, Taylor Swift's moment was rudely interrupted. If Canada was going to have any rapper, it should have been Drake. I immediately looked up the best tickets for Pit Bull and all I found was seats behind him for $200. That is the only reason I chose to watch it on the screen instead. I cannot see myself looking at the backside of anyone for too long. So, next time they start up a petition to get rid of a rapper, which I understand they could not because there was a contract, tell us who the singers are in advance. The media would like to share now that it is West that people want to see, but not me, no sireeee. I wanted to see Pit Bull! Oh, well. Another time. Until then I shall continue to enjoy his music and even better without the other, I would have to suffer through. Vulgarity can stay where it is, without the contributions of our tax money. What were you thinking Organizer? Even our Mayor didn't know who he was.

My ebook is now being sold on Kobo.com

I have been giving my books priority for a few days. My shopping cart on my own web site is updated, however, I could not use the cart from Canada Post for reasons that I will not even begin to write about. I will be continuing to use their services however to mail books out. Anyone having any problems please contact me personally. I never even thought of going on Facebook but was informed to do so by a contact my publisher connected me with. I have a list of what he suggested I do and I will do all he suggests. I listen to the pros. I had no idea so many people I know are on Facebook and previous colleagues have been buying my book. I will eventually get better at this. I have had positive feedback from previous colleagues and two have told me that they could not put the book down. Since I know that these two do not provide compliments for no reason, I was quite flattered. I know that not all will like the book, but I am sure that there will be a passionate feeling good or bad. If any of you do read my book, don't be afraid of hurting my feelings. Let me know what you think. Enjoy your weekend. Have some play time and if there is something bothering you, remember you have choices. What do you think? P.S. I am making myself available to Book Clubs etc....Contact me if you are interested. I do have fun with the books side of the house. Veterans, contact me if you want group counselling or want to start up a support group in Toronto.