Taking advantage of the summer

I noticed that the three day conference I posted regarding systemic family therapy didn't quite work. Oh well, the actual courses are not listed yet but it should be a great event. I love the American Conferences but unfortunately can only attend virtually because of Mr Attitude. They have a big one in London England and that is a country I tried to go to about three times. I talk about that in my bio. www.silvaredigonda.ca. Well I had to bring my car in but no worries, they needed a part which was of no cost to me, so it appears that my new old car should do me well. I actually really like it. It doesn't look so big when it isn't beside my old car. I actually got attached to that car and feel like I abandoned it for a newer model. Imagine getting attached to a car. I seem to get attached to all my cars and pets. I worked out all the details with my publisher and now that is good to go. This Saturday the Sisters of Crime have a guest speaker talking about self publishing so I need to find the time to attend. It is only an hour and a half so I better make the time. It is the advertising and getting my face out there. People seem to like me at events so I need to be more visible in person. If you are in Toronto and have a book club or book store, I am available. I am planning for next summer. I went to the Bloor festival as the pick of the week and though they have vendors I would have to supply my own table, chair and tent. What do I look like, Superwoman? There has to be something more realistic like you supply the table, tent and chair and I will supply my books and bring my own pen. How does that sound? I still have lots to supply you with but I have also been cheating and having more fun. Also, beause of my injured leg I have also joined a mini gym so I can use the bicycle which has less stress on the leg or so my physio therapist tells me. He prefers that I swim but there is no parking at the place I really want to join. I also like to spend more time having fun because I have been working very hard and I must practice what I preach. Mr Attitude wasn't feeling so well last night and so I prayed until he got better. Like I said, I get attached to my pets. He is now fine once again. Summer is so short and we need to enjoy it when we can. That's all for now. New car, good as new leg (almost)and Mr Attitude is still alive. I am also spending any free time reading for fun. Good talk. Next : Creating a safety plan to get away from your abusive partner continues on Thursday.

Event Registration - 2023 Systemic Family Therapy Conference

Event Registration - 2023 Systemic Family Therapy Conference

I am still here. Busy busy busy My dealership just provided me with one year free roadside/towing. What does that tell me?

This time when I brought my car in for oil change etc..I was informed that my car cannot endure another winter. So, I had to quickly find another car, not that I haven't been looking. However, I need to go out of town twice for an important family event and that is why I bought a car I would not have ever considered. It has almost 200,000 miles. It is huge and I like small, especially in Toronto where I can squeeze in for parking and not have an accident when driver's are on the phone and cross their lanes. I mean if you have read my bio, you would have discovered that I trained on 2 1/2 ton trucks but that wasn't in Toronto. I actually did prepare to buy a fiat and called the family owned business. I was so sure I would buy it that I prepared the insurance company for it. I went to see it and guess what? I did love the car with red leather seats and white exterior but you see there was a complication. There was no battery in the car and when I saw tape used to connect stuff in the engine and a daggling plastic thing, well what would you do? On top of that there was a car with a car tarp on it blocking my car from ever going to a test run. I was stunned and that is hard to do. The family manager informed me that I had not made an appointment for a test run. Apparently telling her I was coming to see the car did not include I might want to drive it to see if it feels good to buy? Well after all that and I was "pissed" I decided to just buy the other car from my dealership. It is the last German vehicle they have because now everything is made in countries where labour is cheap. When I checked the car I wanted to buy, apparently the Italian made Fiat was not made in Italy, but in Syria. Whats this about? However, because the car was so pretty and I was desparate for a car I would have done it anyway except for this family manager failing to meet the grade. I did tell her that in all of my buying of cars this was the worse. The last time was bad for wasting my time and dance which I do not do when purchasing but this took the cake. So, I am picking up the big new car which has increased my insurance to a rediculous amount. I called CAA and they quoted me 650 cheaper. Guess where I am going? I will get more for my money and they also added perks to beat. Now if I stay with this insurance company I am covered for earthquake, etc.... but not with CAA but you know what? I just make the total move because if I just cover my house, my rates will increase 35%. So, this is why I haven't written to you. I have been pulling my hair (metaphorically speaking because, actually, I do not do that). I also have news about Ominous. I decided to stick to my own publisher since I trust her and it should be out by next February or March and I retain all rights. I will talk about that hopefully next week, unless the sky falls. I know I haven't finished with tips for women running away from their abusive spouses. Men like it too. It's coming. If you want to make me feel better you may buy one of my books which I will mail in any part of the world regardless of politics, religions etc.....Books are good for the soul for everyone. If you have problems ordering let me know because I pay more than I should for that too. Check it out....www.silvaredigonda.ca In the meantime I have posted a horse and buggy which is the norm in St Jacobs Ontario. I spent a wonderful day there, checking out the market and being mistaken for a local in town by a nice gentleman. I can get used to a calmer place than my boisterous city, but what the heck. There is no place like home. Or, is there? Niagara Falls? Have a good weekend. I am afraid this is all I got to give this week. What do you think?

Happy Canada Day

I love holidays. Canada Day is tomorrow and once again there are events all over the city. The States celebrate Jul 4 th and I have been at two of their events, once at Disney World and another near Virginia Beach. Give me a reason to celebrate and I am in. I wish the entire world a wonderful weekend. Find those moments of serenity and peace. I still pray that wars will cease cold or otherwise. We live in such a beautiful planet. Let's unite and take care of it and all who lives. Later.

This is an event for men in abusive relationships from their perspective. It is free and on line. It should be global.

For Love of Country - Military Policewoman For your own ebook or book, order on line from me at www.silvaredigonda.ca

The following morning, we were rushed out of bed by our senior course leader. She was one of us, a new recruit, and had been appointed our leader for the day. This was to become a ritual, to give us the opportunity to demonstrate our leadership abilities. I soon learned that food would taste better after missing several meals. The day was spent compiling a will. I named my father executor and chose Rose as an alternate should anything happen to my father. (Rose chose me to do the same.) The day would not be complete before receiving our vaccinations. The side effect was exhaustion. Other women suffered headaches, and some felt so ill they were sent to the hospital. The feeling that I had been here a month rather than three days began to weigh. That night I slept soundly. The next morning I received a letter from my mom and Sam. These letters would become an important event in our daily lives away from home. In class we learned about the military rank structure. We were all at the bottom – privates. After four years as a private, the rank of Corporal is attained. After that the structure continues by promotion: Master Corporal, Sergeant, Warrant Officer, Master Warrant Officer and Chief Warrant Officer. Then there are the Commissioned Officers: a cadet parallels us. This is followed by Lieutenant and Captain (parallel to Corporal), Major, Lieutenant Colonel, Colonel, and General. There are also four levels of generals. The day was mostly spent marching. We also viewed a film about drugs and their effects. At one point we gathered in the auditorium where we were welcomed and informed that we had been selected from a vast group of potential recruits across Canada because it was believed we were the best. Here that would be proven or disproven. This was the first day that I did not feel tired since arriving in Cornwallis. The following day we received our “kit,” which consisted of more uniforms and other military accessories. The entire day was spent on fitting and refitting into standard sizes. In between we were taught how to shine shoes and sew. I had to sew a name tag to my housecoat and after three attempts, I was informed to try harder in the future. We were told to ask when we did not understand anything. When someone did ask for any clarification, they were treated as if they were stupid and informed that the thinking could not all be done for them. Excerpt From: Silva Redigonda. “For love of country : military policewoman.

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Peel Committee Against Woman Abuse. Continues……..In the Neighourhood: When not living with abusive partner

Tell your neighbours to call police if they hear a fight or screaming in your home. Tell people who care for your children who has permission to retrieve them. Let your neighbours know that your partner no longer resides with you and ask them to call police if they see him/her near your home. Provide a photo and description. Ask neighbours to watch your children in an emergency. Hide clothing and your Emergency Escape Plan items at a neighbour’s house if possible. Use different grocery stores and shopping malls and shop at hours different from those when your lived with your partner. Use a different bank or branch and take care of your banking at hours different from when you were living with your abusive partner. Choose another doctor, dentist and other professional services you would normally use (My tid bits: It is not always easy nowadays to even find a doctor so if you decide to keep your health providers I would suggest you brief them of your circumstances so they can alert you if your ex partner tries to attend and/or get information about you. Abusers are usually smooth talkers and will try to make you look like the abuser. In my home office I have an exterior camera , panic alarm to police, intrusions alarm and fire alarm. So let your therapist know what is going on, including your fears etc…I have found that some men are embarrassed about their situation. Don’t be. You are not alone.) Do not put your name in your apartment building directory (or place another name there while informing building management and the post office). To be continued with at work.