The Internet Murders continues..........

Cory was in his office on Bay Street. He couldn’t stop thinking of the girl. What was his problem? Maybe his buddies were right. He needed a life. Cory thought that Corporate was not making him happy. He would tell his father today. He needed to do something more with his life. Cory walked down the hall and stood in front of the grand double doors. He walked inside without knocking. The older man sat at the desk, behind him a breathtaking view of the city. They were high enough to see the lake. “You should knock, Cory. I could have been with someone.” “Dad, I want to talk to you.” Cory’s father looked up at his beautiful son who showed so much promise. Already his son was making more money than he ever did at his age. Of course Cory did have it easier because of his own station in life; however he was smart and earned every bit he was making. “Sit down, son.” Cory sat on the designer sofa, made to impress rather than comfort. The entire room spelled luxury. It wasn’t really a room. It was the size of an entire apartment, bar and all. It also had a separate area, for a king size bed, where his father would sleep many nights. Cory was sure that his father always slept here alone, regardless of the size of his bed. Everything his father did was grand. His mistress was money. He was no longer happy making mere millions. Cory wondered if his father was ever really capable of loving anyone. He was sure that his father wanted Cory to join him to help maximize his empire. He knew that he didn’t trust anyone except for him and his mother. Cory wondered whether his father placed so much importance on money because of his humble beginnings. His mother was happy being host to everyone at a moment’s notice. She didn’t mind him being away because he seemed absent when he was home. When he did come home, he would spend most of his time in his home office, and many nights Cory would awaken to hear his father speaking to someone in China or Japan or someone in Europe during their own time zones. It was probably more relaxing when his father was at the office. He looked out at the view of the city. It was beautiful. He could see the CN Tower, which you could hardly see now from street level, because there was a new high-rise being built on every parking lot. The growth was exciting for his father, who profited by this expansion. “Dad, I want to leave the company.” Excerpt From: Silva Redigonda. “The Internet Murders.

Happy Canada Day (belated) and Happy Jul 4th

I spent the weekend quietly enjoying gardens, roses and pets. It is not too often that I get to spend such a tranquil weekend, but I did. Canada Day for me is enjoying my country and celebration in fun. It is a day when only positivity fits in. I spent two Jul 4th's in the States, one being my Happy place - Disney World. We are hitting a seventh wave in my city of the pandemic and so I am still careful and normally participate in outdoor activities where it is not busy. That is easier said than done. Most of my hideout places have been discovered and is slowly becoming busy as well. However, I still have a few spots. This was the first time that my pets did not get too anxious about the fireworks, mainly because it was raining and so the neighbourhood scaled it down. I wish you a healthy time. Thank you for reading my blogs. What are your thoughts?

Care for those who are dying. End of Life Issues - Theology notes

Three-Font Principle How we judge for someone morale or imoral. 1. Intention 2. Act in itself. 3 Circumstances (proportionality). Drive to Totality. Eg. Act of killing is wrong. Now circumstances. If defence, Church can kill. But if we kill when we do not have to? -Modern medical approaches (gift and difficulty) -Fear that death will no longer be a “serene moment.” -Our unability to talk about death and dying. Natural fear of the unknown. Changes in our families and society. For Catholics - often mistaken understanding of our teaching. The Dignity of a person “ The dignity of the human being must be recognized from conception to natural death. This fundamental principle expresses a great “yes” to human life and must be at the centre of ethical reflection. Bioethical issues (Dignitas Personae, 2008). Image of God. This principal has even greater importance in today’s world. “A cultural of death”, “a consistent ethic of life”. Normally one is held to use ordinary means according to circumstances of persons, places, times and culture - that is to say, means that do not involve any grave burden for one suffering or another. A more strict obligation would be burdensome for most people and would render the attainment of the higher, more important (God) good too difficult Pope Pius X11 (Nov 24, 1952). When there is a reasonable hope of benefit that can be obtained and used without excessive pain or other serious inconvenience (Jehovah Witness refusing provision of blood and therefore die). Persons receiving care are not obliged to such treatment when it is no benefit etc…moral law means natural law. We have lost integration, the integration of moral theology and spirituality. We have moved away from old theology to relationship. Richard Gueller indicated that what leads us to be moral is gratitude (celebrate life). We celebrate what is. Attitude of gratitude - gives us a sense of humility - never assuming that something is. Image of God as desire. Need to understand that notion of incarnation. Scripture is one of the sources of moral theology. Love: agape - God loves in that love completely? From gratitude - disinterest - Disinterested in self (lack of ego - for something for myself - letting go the ego - of me, myself and I - not my interest. Eros - sexual. Philia - love that is affirming, we with each other. Our purpose is to call one another to greatness? I call that person indifferent, to what it may mean to me. Sense of calling to growth is another gratitude. Calling to conversion, that interested presence to grow. Must be generous? Notion of gift we need to explore too. We must move beyond established identity and well defined relationships, not denying, taking care of primary self, self care; part self care. Ecology is challenging the structure of ecology. The science of ecology is first most - relationships. The rest, the world would be better without us but we cannot do without it. Incarnation - the very substance of God’s son is the earth. We are not superior to but equal to and responsible for God’s relationship. We are in interrelationship. God added other species so God’s image could be viewed more accurately. Three Principles of the universe: Subjectivity/interiority - tree is tree; human - human; pig is pig. Diversity: In that diversity is communion (the third). Without these principles live crisis to exist. The individual is important in relationship. Balance of individual and common good. Diversity therefore calls us to respect life. We gain the facts through interrelations. Calls us to move forward. That that tree from its roots, knowing it and loving it. It moves us from the past of sin, its a breath of relationships (all relationships). Primary made in the image of God. God of Trinity. Three persons, one God in relationship. All creation is reflected by God who is in creation and beyond creation. Ok - next in theology notes is Eschatology

Pastoral Counselling notes and a few comments here and there and got idea for fifth book (www.silvaredigonda.ca)

I was going to post a video from a seminar I attended last week but I can't find it on line and no link was sent yet if ever, so in case it eventually can be found, it is the Scholar's Hub, The latest United Nations Report: Accelerating the Energy Transition, Environmental Studies at York University. Now back to notes. Why not begin with Emotional Focused Psychology? The first goal is access and represses through emotional response. 2. Create new recreational events that redefine the relationship. Adult bonding - attachment theory - what and how we can go wrong with attachment. Emotional Focused Therapy - understanding the emotion to secure bonding. Emotionally more open to create safety. Then when panicked, can open to the feelings and communication. Name - Aim - Claim. Cognitive/limbic system. Provide secure attachment so healing can take place. Normally there is 8-9 sessions for couple emotional therapy. Feeling question: How do you feel? Book recommendation: Hold Me Tight (I read it). I am going to stop here because most of this is actually the art of working with people. Since most of you who read my blogs are not therapists, I won't bore you with this. However, I have given great thought of what people have been asking me to do, who have read my books in the community, that is writing from the lens of a psychotherapist. So, though I have been reluctant to do this, I have decided that my next book, after Ominous is published, is to write a murder serial killing mystery of course which involves a psychotherapist as a protaganist, a woman at that, whose assistant is a gay man. I will not call him secretary. Mention it? Maybe? How does that sound? When I was at Word on The Street, there were many gay men who approached me, but I didn't seem to have anything to offer them. They want to see themselves represented as everyone does, so here goes. I'll let you know how it goes here and there without giving too much away. I am always willing to hear feedback. What do you think?

Fraud Seminar in case your are interested. This is with the Elder Abuse Prevention Ontario

On June 29th, EAPO will be hosting a webinar, "FIGHT FRAUD" presented by the Ontario Provincial Police - Community Safety Services and Serious Fraud Office. The focus of the FIGHT FRAUD presentation is to promote fraud prevention through community engagement and public education; build awareness of frauds that threaten the safety and security of Ontario seniors; and to educate Ontario seniors to recognize, reject and report fraud. One of the important messages of the presentation is to slow down—to take time to think about a demand for money or personal information before complying. The presentation highlights a campaign from the United Kingdom called Take Five which also promotes this message. In addition to the Take Five strategy, the presentation will cover specific fraud scams that are most common, specifically: romance fraud, emergency fraud, CRA fraud, bank investigator fraud and spoofing. Be sure to register today to reserve your spot! #FightFraud Register Today! The best way for everyone to avoid becoming a victim of fraud and scams is to  be alert, aware and informed. FRAUDS AND SCAMS - RESOURCES AND SUPPORTS Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre If you suspect or are experiencing a fraud/scam, re port it. 1-888-495-8501 Competition Bureau File a complaint about a false or misleading advertising 1-800-348-5358 Crime Stoppers Report crimes anonymously. 1-800-222-TIPS (8477) For more information: Better Business Bureau Canada Revenue Agency Competition Bureau of Canada Consumer Protection Ontario Government of Canada  Seniors Guidebook to Safety and Security - RCMP Little Black Book of Scams SCAM ICON.png

Ethical Reflection on Pastoral Practice (Theology- RC) notes

The learning and teaching - Church person Jesus: Life in the spirit. Humane Vitae - issues concerning birth control. Majority report- there is no theological problem changing view of birth control. Minority report - very conclusive. Accepted not specifically on birth control but if the church teaching could change - it would be comparable to be error in other cases.This would alter the authority of the Church, and accepted with a lot of stress. Jesuit said the Church had no business in the bedroom. What happened was the Canadian Bishops put in a conscious clause, what married people could do. Informed decision: Role of Authority - Physician - treatment proposal. Potential benefits in partial solution. Potential risks. Apostolic mandate - Jesus said he would not leave us. Peter, rock of the Church comes from scripture. Lumen Gentuim, n.4, speaks of the role of Bishops in the Church. Note 37 - The laity should disclose their needs etc…should tell Pastor regarding what is good for the Church. People may be duty bound to speak about to Bishops. Vatican 1 did not meet criteria for infallibility. Controversial questions were raised. Sensus fidei - baptized person has a sense of faith when collectively understood - sensus fidelirum. Prayer - sense devine presence. Next theology notes continues with Care for those who are dying. End of Life Issues

Word On The Street was a success!

Word On The Street was a success. I sold more books than ever. It was also exciting seeing familiar faces returning and new bushy tails approaching as well. We were back at Queens Park and though two days are rather long, it was worth it. During my first day, I was surprised at how many books I sold because there were 200 authors. I wasn’t sure if it was the location, my sunny disposition, or merely the sun welcoming all book enthusiasts back. During my second day it was more like other events which again matched the weather, but not with the abundance of rain that had been forecasted. I was asked if I had a newsletter and then it hit me. I am not up to date with what I should be doing as a writer. I recently read from a book where the author has a movie series that writing is the easy part and then there is the business side of the house. She thanked her agents and publishers etc……..I have completed writing my fourth book and I need to get it out by next year. That is the business side of the house. I need to contemplate if I should seriously consider having an agent, a traditional publisher or continue in my comfort zone with self-publishing which provides me with all my rights to my work but also suffers at the selling portion because aside from writing my blogs which I scatter here and there I am also conscious that I do not do enough. Joining Sisters of Crime has really opened my eyes to the business side of the house which also includes an abundance of scams. Writers are very generous with sharing information. It’s great company to be among people who wish others success and want to help them get it. Virginia Woolf said that to write you need a room of your own. I don’t remember her saying anything about the business portion. COVID hit us hard and I could see it with the general public. They have and some are still suffering. I am already thinking of my next book after this one. I want to keep thinking until this one is finalized, because I don’t want to disturb the flow. I still have one in the making in memory of a friend of mine who died from cancer and wanted me to write about two older women in a comic murder mystery. I am not there in my mindset. I have to get a bit older and perhaps after the next book, I shall finally do her justice. When someone is dying and they ask you to write something, well you simply do it but I want to also do it justice, so Anne Marie Mair please be patient with me. I shall write it in your memory. I have met so many aspiring writers and my advice is always the same. Write…….just write and keep writing. Don’t stop, go to jail or otherwise…..just keep writing. I shall begin to share the writing portion as well as I learn it. As I figure it out, I shall share. After all are not many of us diamonds in the rough? For every person who has bought any of my books, I wish to thank you from the bottom of my heart.