Suicide

Uof T magazine, summer 2015, page 23, reports that people who survive a first attempt by poisoning are 42 times more likely to kill themselves by poisoning eventually, compared to the average person. If you are feeling suicidal get some help. More elderly men in Canada commit suicide than any other group. It is never to late to get help. I can speak a lot more on this topic but not today.

9/11

To all those who have loved ones who died on that sad day, to all their families, to all the survivors, to all who helped that day, my heartfelt wishes for peace.

China is now telling pet owners to get rid of their pets in a district, or they shall be killed. Really?

I sometimes shake my head when I hear the news but do so now daily, hear the news that is. Sometimes I don't talk about certain things because I don't want the culprits to get the attention they seek, which is mainly from men who hate women and wish them harm. However, I have spoken about China before. Did you know that google is not allowed in China? People forget that it is a communist country. I will once again try not to buy anything from China. How can I feel good buying products from a country which exploits and controls its people, place limits, topples churches and now wants to go on a killing spree for pet owners. Katrina did something where we learned from them. Civilized countries and yes I will use the "awful" word civilized, learned that pet owners stayed and died with their pets rather than being rescued. Toronto certainly allows pet owners and their pets to go to emergency shelters, after Katrina, when there is an emergency situation as when we had a power failure and it was winter. I mentioned the last time I talked about China when it was toppling Churches that a business man was telling us that we should mind our own business. God forbid if it upsets his business. Our Prime Minister talked about values and the people or words to that effect which clearly indicated he was opposed to this. So, I shall once again not buy anything that comes from China because I do not like how they treat their people. I certainly do not like how limited we are becoming in what we can buy or more precisely where it is from. There are very good people living in China and many come here to make it their home. They want to have more children than they are allowed in China, they want to taste freedom. So, think about the benefits you have in your country. If you had the opportunity to live anywhere, where would it be? What do you think?

Pope Francis (Pastoral)

As you know by now, I tape everything I want to watch in advance. Then I normally watch it in segments. One of the weekly shows I tape is 20/20. Last week it was about Pope Francis. I was very interested and I watched it in segments, allowing it to penetrate and for me to discern. It was about poverty and the States. Our Pope and I will call him ours, because he is mine and I believe he belongs to the world. He has a great compassion for the poor. From the Vatican and with todays technology he was able to enter places in the States where he could communicate personally with people who had suffered. The impact he had on these people who spoke to him of their suffering was powerful. More than once I shed a tear in this process. There was a single mom with two children who had just found an apartment for the first time after living in shelters for so long. There was a youth, seventeen I believe who was supporting his entire family because his father was ill. This youth lost his scholarship when it was learned that they were not legal in the States. They had escaped Mexico. I do hope I have this all right because I don’t want to minimize the show or distract from it. What the most powerful aspect for me was watching the transformation of these suffering souls as the Pope validated their importance. I worry about this Pope more than the others. I worried about Obama as President more than the others. Every time I see a leader who is different, who brings a new perspective that is positive, I feel a bit of a concern because I know that they face new challenges. My focus is the Pope and Religion here. The Pope has many enemies. He has the Mafia who have a twisted distorted view of Catholicism. They forget that killing and terrorizing is not sanctioned. He has other Catholics too who do not agree with his views. Yet, the Pope is only preaching what it is to be a Catholic. Catholicism is about embracing, justice for others, sustaining others etc….Catholicism should be about helping. Too often I see disdain and criticism. Too often I see hate. I am not perfect either and remember going to my school one day and there was a homeless man sleeping outside my building and I flinched. I had disdain and concern. I had not noticed that it was a sculpture of a homeless man. I had not known that it had been turned down to display from every Religious Institution at the University but my own. After that I would sit beside the homeless man and discern. It forced me to look at myself. I love going to the States which has come to a halt after adopting my previously abused animals. What I always did when driving down there is taking detours off the main highway to see the landscape and with that I saw people and with that I saw a state of poverty I have never quite seen in Canada. I know we have it here and as I watch the news and see how people are now living in Ontario Housing, I realize how shameful it is becoming here. Our countries are rich and there should not be one person in either of our countries who do not have a clean place to live, good meals and opportunity for growth. We are failing our poor. We are trapping our poor. What the Pope did for me is make me proud of him. He teaches by example. I do not normally advertise I am a Catholic because I help so many people of so many religions and quite a few hate Catholics. As a Pastoral Counsellor Specialist which is one of my qualifications I deal with the spirituality and concerns of all people. They come from different religions or none. I have butted heads with some of my own when I say that there should be a coma after spirituality as an option, rather than integration. But, I also know that it is a question of interpretation. We may mean the same thing but I am coming from the perspective of a private practice where I deal with all kinds of people, trauma, couples, relationships, addictions etc…Some suffer because of their experiences with religion, some are confused about their religion, some stay in abusive relationships because of their perspective of religions. Ministers have told them that God wants them together, so they believe that God sanctions the beatings, etc…Ministers have all to often abused and because of this the religion is blamed rather than the man or woman. There is all to often a distortion of religion. People often commit horrendous acts and terrorism in the name of God. All this has nothing to do with God. All this has to do with their own twisted distortions. There is no room for hate for God. When I interned at a hospital often I would hear someone tell me how much they hate Catholics. I never took it personally. I was interested in why. What I heard was usually valid but it had nothing to do with being a Catholic, it had everything to do with being hateful and ignorant. These people exist everywhere but there is hope for them. There has to be or this vicious cycle will continue. As I look at our world I continue to have hope. There are so many good people in it. I believe that the majority of people are good. Often this is skewed from people who work with and only see the bad. I remember a Priest and Professor telling me how in the Philippines, in the poorest part, a Priest was badly beaten by Catholics. It was a Muslim who carried the Priest home and eased him back to health. I remember another Priest and friend tell me how when working in South America another Priest and friend of his was killed after he protested for the release of two young men who were scheduled to be killed. He succeeded, they were released and he was killed in kind. What did the mother of one of the youths say? She said it was his job. I saw how my Priest friend suffered and told him that he should write a book. He agreed but never did. He is resting with God now and his friends. There is so much I can share but I am not here to write a book. Perhaps in the future I will write one about Spirituality and Religion but not today. As you know I write for fun, right now, not to the pleasure of everyone. But after watching the program with the Pope capturing my heart all over again, I have re-examined myself. Instead of thinking how much I need to pay off this or that, I think of how much I have. I have a home that is bigger than I need, though much less than those I know. I can eat to my hearts content. I am healthy. I have an education that no one can take away. I have respect from my community. I have an office and private practice. I have so much when I really think about it. Ok, so my home is old and need of care and my car is old and should be replaced but that is not what I should be dwelling on. Therefore, I thank God that I have and have had the life I have. So, please I ask everyone today pray for Pope Francis because we really need him so we can all decide to be better people, including Catholics who have fallen in the wayside. I believe that we can end this cycle of hate and wars and terrorism and poverty. All people should be validated. What we are doing is not working so this is time to change. I hope I have touched one of you today. The Pope asked Americans to pray for him, but I ask it from world.

Cheap way to travel in the summer

Did you know you can find great deals when you travel by checking out the universities in the summer when students are away at play or work? Apparently according to Sage, summer 2015, you can stay in the heart of downtown Montreal from $49. a night for a single dorm-style room with shared bathroom to 119.00 a night for a room at the four star Citadelle, a converted Marriott on Sherbrooks Street West. This is kept so quiet that even students don’t know. Big hotels get upset if they know there are great deals apparently. You know that great hall in Harry Potter, why not stay at Oxford and take a look at Keble College. What do you think?

Self care is important - Have fun this holiday weekend

I did work this long weekend but it was very limited because the focus was fun and a few other minor details. It is lots of swimming, a bit of Starbucks coffee (I am still waiting for the one near me to open, as promised. Summer is almost over guys) and sailing with a few lunches thrown in here and there. I went to the ex as well and that is something I recommend for all tourists. Don't forget to see "Show Dogs" and the Ice Show. I must admit I have been enjoying my summer and soon it will be serious work, serious conferences and serious fun. Enough of being serious. I have still to return to my third book because life happens, but my desk and white board is waiting. I have different coloured pens ready to list my clues. I think I shall begin from the start and this time record my clues and characters a bit differently. It is all in my head right now and scattered on notes. Will I need more than one board? Maybe, but I see that they are still at Costco. A bit more reading for one of my volunteer positions to advance a student and a bit of catch up for some more paperwork and still I should be preparing a proposal for one of my books, mainly my second but thinking of a way to squeeze in my number 1 and then it is back to my book. I like to write when I am fresh as soon as I wake up. My brain is more alert then and so if I am doing other important stuff, then well I have to give it priority. But, enough of work and hobbies. It is time to enjoy my weekend. I suggest you do the same. A balance of work and play is so important. If you have struggles in your life do not hesitate to contact me. Oh, I have been asked to be a regular on some internet radio show. Though I have said that I will do no more volunteer work numerous times, I cannot say no to a friend, nor to where veterans are concerned. So sometimes, situations change and then we need to re-think our priorties. What do you think? Have fun guys.

Word On The Street coming where I shall be signing and selling my books. Why not come and visit? 27 September 15! & back to gym update

I cannot believe how fast my life is racing. I barely blink and summer is over though our Mayor keeps thinking it is mid summer. It must be the hot weather. Anyhow, with the ending of summer comes "Word On The Street". This year it will be held at the Harbour Front. I think it is a wonderful location since it is one of my favorite spots in Toronto. I will be at Booth 180, East of the Amazon.ca Best Sellers. Note that I said East (from) of Best sellers. So, if I know you please bring me coffee, black, no sugar. Parking will probably cost a fortune. I have been coming to this event since I wrote, "Hey Guy Buy Me." I noticed at my last street sale that people were buying my first book rather than my second. It could be the cost. However, I make more money selling Hey Guy Buy Me than my second which I don't really break even since I fired my first editor and returned to my publisher. I like her because I trust her and she is honest so there are no surprises. I would love to have my books in stores but it is too costly. Last night I had a dream that I was given a writers grant and I was so excited as I could then afford to have my books sent to book stores. Oh well, it is nice to dream and I didn't realize that I was so excited about having that happen. Our dreams do bring out what lays below the surface. Oh well, grant or no grant, I can still write what I like and find an audience. I have my two fans and so I am sure that I shall sell them each a copy of my second book. If it took ten years for Stephen King's son to be recognized as a writer (without letting on who he is) it should take me 20. I am ok with that because I do love what I do. I have spent most of my summer replanning my businesses, my advertizing, my professional development. I really like what I am doing. Actually, I really love what I am doing and feel that it is a gift that I can be doing it. I have such a joy of life as I ponder what I can do next. I have also since my trip to Montreal returned to the gym. While in Montreal, my cousin has a huge mirror in the bedroom that becomes mine when I am there. I noticed meat where I had not noticed it before and wondered who was inhabiting my body. At home I have a small mirror that focuses on my face so I can scream each year on my birthday and then get over it. I am getting older, like fine wine. However, for the last seven years I have been sitting and sitting and sitting. I sit when I type on my computer which monopolizes a lot of my time and I certainly sit with my clients. Can you imagine me standing and hovering over people? Of course not! Career kill! So, though most of my life has been spent outdoors and moving, when school became full time and my third career became a reality, I sat and sat and sat, so viola, excuse my French, I saw a body that I did not recognize. So, it is back to the Health Club and of course as I was once told, "The bodi, it does not forgit." And, as my neighbour likes to say, "eegiot" Yes, I have been. I have been so focused about getting my businesses on board that I have forgotten the importance of movement. So, it is a real treat for me because I love the water and I do like to exercise. I have tried to stop meeting too many people at bakeries for get togethers and I have stopped storing too many treats. Now, do not get the wrong idea. I do love myself very much. I do not think I look awful. I think I am very attractive especially for my age like fine wine. So, for you people who may have a bad impression of your bodies, get a full length mirror and tell yourself while in the nude how beautiful you look each day. Remember to eat well and exercise moderately to keep healthy. Spend time treating yourself. You deserve it. So come and visit me at the Harbour front on the last Sunday of September and buy one of my books, if you haven't already. Have a nice week.