Sex - interesting article from Couple and Family Magazine

I have been saving this article for you since I last wrote about sex. This is from the Family Therapy Magazine Jan/Feb 22 pp 44-47. They are going to stop sending me the magazines and I’ll have to read on line so I won’t be reading them as much anymore due to too much time on the internet. I like to read my magazines at my own leisure away from the computer. According to this article 42% of American women have low libido or desire, pain and or elusive orgasms. Many more lack emotional connection with their partners. Issues such as body shame (Brown, 2012), negative conditioning and or lack of ability to relax is common. The clitoris is similar in size to a penis, with 95% below the surface (Aswell, 2018). There are half dozen types of orgasms to experience. Trauma may cause a body to feel desensitized or numb. Growing up, women may receive negative messages about their sexuality, bodies and desires which may cause lasting shame, confusion and guilt. Parts of the female anatomy need 20-40 minutes of attention, yet the average sex act is over in about six minutes (do you see a problem?). A great sex life needs priority and time. Sex with deep emotional connection is often the ultimate goal. What I usually suggest to women who have body shame is to look at themselves in a full length mirror and tell themselves they are beautiful. This is difficult and requires time. Do it every day if you feel shame, until you believe it. Communicate with your partner what it is you like once you find out what it is. Relationships require communication and listening. However, both need to be comfortable and nothing should ever be forced. Have a good weekend. Sex is important in a relationship——connection. What do you think?