New web site in progress silvaredigonda.com

Hi, managed to start my new additional web site. Please be patient with me. My ebook is now being sold on my web site. I will try to add my hard cover books for sale when I can.

For Love Of Country - Military Policewoman

Yesterday my phone rang with a voice from the past. I knew who it was before I answered because the name popped up on my tv screen. He loves my book. It brings him back. He likes how I wrote it. He stayed up two hours past his bed time which is huge. He has read 118 pages. His daughter went out to the bookstore to buy a copy or two. I couldn't have felt more exhilarated. I love to write like I suppose some like to bake. When you get someone who really likes what you write must surely feel like when you make the dish that pleases the pros (can you tell I watched Master Chef Canada last night?). Is who called me a writer? Nope! But, I can tell you that if he likes my book I can breathe easy. Every once in a while you meet someone who has had a significant impact on your life and he is definitely one of them. I explained that I am not selling them in the stores this time. I cannot afford publicists, distributors ect....Nor can I afford to give away 45% to individual stores. I am simply the little girl (not the little guy) who is trying to maneuver her way into the system of business. It is a system. I don't think I ever took an interest in business. I was always in some type of service. However, I realize that everything works as a business so I have to find my way in it by trying different methods using my grey cells. I was motivated by the voice who loved my book. Three people have read it or have a copy to date. One is a family member who really likes it but that is family and family doesn't count. Is family going to tell you that they hate what you wrote? When you cook a supper that you spent all day trying to make is your family going to tell you that they hate it burned or not? If they do, you need an appointment - Just kidding. So family does not count. An author who has my book has not said anything though he loved, "Hey Guy Buy Me." I am still waiting for a knock on the door. And then it is the voice from my past and that was what I needed to hear to motivate me to contact my publisher to ask her how long it would take to get my ebook. This motivated her to see why it is taking so long. I was going to have the web site all done up for me nice and pretty but the cost is 80% more than what I was quoted last year. In the past I would have been gasping at the increase but that was before Hydro Ontario and some other services here in Ontario that has skyrocketed. So, I have decided to do this myself which will barely cost me anything. Wish me luck. I was informed that I would require 2 weeks to understand it all. That is too bad because I usually pass all the reading and just play with it, which is probably what I will be doing this time. Two weeks? So, it will take a bit longer to get my ebook, though I have all the books I have ordered. It costs 19.95 and the postage for Canada is 10.00. At least that is what it cost to mail out my last one. The envelope was a tad too big and I still need to get a better fit. I think this book is worth every penny. Pennies no longer count in Canada, so I think it is worth every nickel. For those of you who live in Toronto, come to see me at the Oakwood Fest, Jun 20 and find me near the bank. I am getting very excited about my second book. Now, I need to write a bit more of my third and then prepare some things for my work and web (homework - pictures). Where is your passion? What gets you motivated? When was the last time that you were really happy about something? What is stopping you from getting there? What do you think?

Check up the update of my website www.redigondapsychotherapy.com

Just want to let you know that I have brought my web site up to date and I hope you check it out and like it. I realized thet the background pictures I had, hid some of what I had typed so it is much clearer. I also still had myself at school and I completed all that a while ago. Did I mention I am taking a photography class for fun? I don't know what I was thinking. Because I am missing classes because of work/seminars, my instructor has given me homework to take pictures. I told him I did not really have the time. He suggested I update my web with pictures. Smart guy! So, I am kind of cheating. I did post my pictures that we took as a class at the Toronto Distillery Disrict and I also uploaded some pictures I had already taken. I will try to get more up before I go to class to appease him and to have more pictures for you. I will be selling my book, For Love of Country Military Police at the Jun 20, 2015 Street Fair at Oakwood and Rogers in Toronto. I hope to see some of you there. Friends bring coffee. I will continue to sell, "Hey Guy Buy Me" as well. I am still waiting for my ebook but as soon as I get that I will start a separate web for that. I write for fun only and it is very very separate from my work as a therapist. Enjoy the weather!!!!!

I am now a Registered Psychotherapist, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist and Specialist, Pastoral Counsellor

Finally, it is all over and now I can just concentrate on my private practice, writing my books and having fun. I am still tempted to go further, but really, I should really focus on having fun. I am very pleased with my life and my accomplishments and where I stand today. I know there has been a lot of controversy about the new College of Psychotherapy. There has been so much resistence as I have mentioned but I have been waiting for some protection for the public ever since I walked into my first psychology class and heard that anyone, and I mean anyone can put up a shingle. Those days are finally gone. The process is still ongoing but the public will be protected. When I first began studying psychology I was so excited by everything I was learning. I memorized everything which was not that difficult because many courses repeated the same things until it was ingrained. As people told me that they were therapists, my interest mounted only to be dismayed when I heard them say they had a general bachelar degree or college or highschool with nada qualifications or training. It was not until I attended a lecture post graduate that I learned that "in the old days", if you had therapy yourself, you were considered qualified to provide therapy to others ---really? What were they thinking? I strongly encourage you the public that if someone when this is all over tells you that they are a psychotherapist, that you check that out. Check out the CRPO website for further information. There are annual fees to belonging to all this. I belong to the American Association of Family Therapy which I intend on staying with so I am available to Americans. I have an Ontario branch that I belong to and they afford us some protection because they are associations. There is going to be a divorce of sorts, perhaps, because it is expensive to carry both. I have decided to stay with the Canadians and Americans. Then there is the Pastoral Counselling, Specialist. I am in my second year with them. That costs too and every five years I have to requalify. I have three years to examine that. I was leaning towards leaving that, but I also see the benefits that being a specialist has on people. There is that need for spirituality and or religion to be recognized by so many for their healing. In my second last seminar I attended only last Friday, we were informed that 97% of Americans believe in God. When I mentioned this to someone I know, I was informed that as Canadians we must be a lot lower. That has made me ponder. We need more of our own research regarding this. That is my opinion and we need to do it right. I still remember attening a seminar at a hospital last year and when I heard of how the study had been conducted, I flinched. It simply was an invalid study and this was at a doctorate level. Research has never been my urge to study, though I realized I could easily become addicted when I prepared for my research proposal a few years back. I was so interested in my finding that new hypothisis were forming as I was receiving more information. Research can not prove but it can disprove. That is the only reason I did not continue with psychology which I think would have been a tad quicker than the route I decided to take to avoid research. I am always tempted to return but I know that I do not need to. However, I have that thirst for knowledge that comes with formal education. So, I need to remember which I always preach - balance. However, I can always manage balance. Can you? So that is where I am at right now. I need to update everything where I advertise. I still did not get my ebook so I am waiting for that before starting a new web site for my books where hopefully you will buy a few. This is an exciting time for me because things are all coming together. My third book is coming along nicely and I would say I have written about three quarters already of my first draft. It is easy for me to write. I have the gift of gab (some would not consider that a gift). So, I have another interesting seminar to attend this month and then I can hopefully balance in some real domestic stuff. I want flowers everywhere outside. I like the results but not the work. I need to paint my walls some more. So, it has been a long winter and spring is finally here. I actually turned off the furnace not too long ago and there is something wonderful with open windows (keeping safety in mind). So some things to think about for you - Where do you feel you are at in your life? What do you feel you have accomplished? Are you happy? Why not re-examine your life and look for the good in it? Often it is easy to become so focused with what is wrong, that someone misses what is right. If you can find one good person in your life that you can talk to without feeling judged that is a good start and there are lots out there. You just have to make that effort. I want to wish all the mothers a Happy Mother's day, I believe is this weekend. What do you think?

Are you depressed or sad? What can you do about it?

I provided my notes so far and to some of you it may make sense and to others it may sound Greek. Excuse the expression. Sometimes there are chemical inbalances in the brain for a variety of conditions and then medication is required. Not only is it required but it should be taken as prescribed by the physician. If there are any problems than go back and report it. People all too often, feel better and stop and then the symptoms re-appear. I normally recommend a psychiatrist when I suspect that medication is required for a psychiatric condition. A psychiatrist can prescribe the right medication and monitor to determine if the medication is suitable and working. Think of the Psychiatrist as a specialist as any other physician who specializes. Then there are cases where someone has suffered a tragedy of sorts. Then a physician can more than likely prescribe a sedative of sorts for perhaps two weeks or so, to enable the person to grieve or cope with what has happened. This is my ideal. In many cases what is required is psychotherapy to determine and help the person to examine their suffering by allowing them to take a stand back and examine what is happening in their lives, to examine their support system and to help them find it when they are alone. If a person is not happy, knows why she or he is not happy, than a therapist can assist that client to help explore the underlying factors. Sometimes a client will think he has a problem and is surprised that what is causing him to be sad is something else entirely. There are so many factors and possibilites that sometimes, someone has to reach out to a professional to get the help they need. There is no shame in that. It is shameful when someone takes drastic measures. So, in my previous notes of learned helplessness, I would like to speak to you who are in an abusive relationship of any kind. You may feel that there is no out. You have learned to accept that resistance is hopeless. I want to encourage you to tell someone. Even though the police have been targeted with a lot of negative press, the majority really want to help others and they spend years trying to do so. Report your abuse. The system is always changing to make this easier for those who need help. If you are a man being abused, or feel helpless with the situation you are in, ignore society thinking that because you are a man than you should be able to defend yourself. That is not true. Anyone can be a victim and feel helpless which can lead to depression. I have just barely scratched the surface, but I would like you to think about this. You have as much right as anyone else to voice your opinions and take a stand in what you believe in. No one has the right to harm you. If you are feeling bullied, or restrained or controlled there is a way to get out of it. You are not obliged to tolerate any sort of abuse. You can be who ever or what ever you want. The sky is the limit. You only need to find the right door to open. What do you think?

Learned Helplessness Model - Depression (Psychology notes)

—————————————- Learned Helplessness Model 1. Learned Helplessness l. Uncontrollable > sense of helplessness > depression aversive events 2. Attributional Reformulation > attibuted to global and aversive events stable factors > sense of helplessness. > depression No response to alter the situation 3. Hopelessness > attribution to global > sense of hoplessness and stable factors - no response aversive events or other cognitive factors available to alter the situation and an expectation that desirable will not occur. > depression. SSRI only block repute of serotonin - others are not blocked. SSRI are effective for depression. Ten different types of receptor for serotonin therefore fewer side effects. PET scants where blood inflowing. Pre post study - blood flow was significantly different than control group. 1/2 drug therapy/ 1/2 cognitively. Equal response in subjective feelings pattern of unusual blood flow had resolved. Therefore both seemed to make a change to correct the depression. Can change brain function in more than one way. Which one is better? No one better or worse. Cognitive is better in my book of study. However, studies not done. No one looked at the level of intelligence. For someone to be successful in Psychodynamic - must have verbal high I.Q. People of high verbal intelligence do not do well. Why? If depressed and told “why I feel worthless I would get very angry because I am more analytical than that.” You can change currency with drugs but drugs will not provide specific information. Treatment used depends on the individual.

Second book and third

I received my shipment of books and have sold one to a neighbour who was watching me reading my book outside. It's a good feeling when you read your final product, when you have it in your hands and you are turning each page. The book is about 400 pages and it is an easy read. My neighbour is an author who is a very serious reader. He is as serious reading as he is a writer. So, I am very curious to see what he will think of my book. I am no way of the same calibre. He plans, he plots, he re-examines each sentence and slowly disects it and re-disects it. Me, well it is like taking him to a banquet and me to a burger joint with some nice beat coming from a juke box. I write and just write and I close my eyes when I am not writing or I am looking at nature and then something pops up into my little brain and I insert it into my book or I think that will be a good theme for another book (this happened a mere hour ago which would make for a good horror story). Writing this second book took me much longer than the two months it took to write my first. I wrote that simply for fun. My second book is about me and my rite of passage. I write about the past and bring it to the present or further into the past. When I was selling "Hey Guy Buy Me" last year at York University at their Show Case, a student asked me if it was any good. What do you say when someone asks you if your apple pie, that you baked all day is any good when you are selling it? However, I did not tell her it was good. I simply said I wrote it. My neighbour made a comment since he has written more books. He said "you get better as you write more don't you?" I agreed. My second is definitely better than my first. I have been more careful this time regarding errors. There were too many in my first and I ordered too many books. I have learned from that as well. I have seen two errors in this one that everyone has managed to miss, a double "i" and a period is missing. I have read about 300 pages. My author neighbour and friend says there is always an error. Perhaps. This will probably be my best book because it is a historical account from my perspective and my piece of history in life. But, you never know; maybe I will get better as I grow. You are waiting for the title are you not? Patience! I am waiting for my ebook and CD and picture of the book and then I will set up a new web site just for my books. I know that it doesn't matter what I write, people will love it or hate it. That is life. That is why it is so important that what I write pleases me, but I do hope to entertain you. If there are any out there who want to write or sing or paint or just do something, do it. Don't ever listen to "you cannot." Perhaps it is they who believe they cannot and project it on you. There are many starving artists out there but they are doing what they love. Though I do not recommend starving, I think that our lives are so short and therefore one must find what one wants to do in life and do it because ultimately you will never please everyone. Again I want to thank you for reading my blogs. As I have mentioned before I began all this because at one conference, I was informed that if we were therapists and not on the internet, we wouldn't be therapists in ten years. Immediately I began my process. What I did not expect was enjoying it, but why not? I like to write. So, I am here advertising my books and trying to stir some interest. Is it working? Stay tuned. What do you think? P.S. I am about 100 pages into my third book and am having such fun writing it. This will be different from my other two. You get a teaser at the end of Book two.