Tid bits for today; movies you may want to watch

 Second Harvest today reports that 10 million people in Canada have food insecurity.  Other reputable news reports that Canadian groceries cost more than that of Americans and blame our Government for not making responsible changes that Americans have.  Last week I paid 7.00 + for regular bread I paid 2.50 for not too long ago.  Yes, it was at Fortino's which isn't cheap, but it is convenient and has security and the staff are more professional than some others I have shopped at.  

Tony on CP 24 reported that Meta is earning a fortune 10% - 16 billion through fraud and scamming.  Facebook - Meta claims that is an exageration.  Reality is it could tip to 20 billion.  Response:  Charge them more, we'll make them pay more.  1/3 of scams in the States are on these channels.

South Korea is making it law to show IA generated clearly on the internet. Yes!!!!!!!!Let's all follow suit.  I have recently noticed that some photos indicate they are IA generated.

Movies you may want to watch:  White Bird:  A Wonder Story  -  A 2024 movie about a girl in Nazi occupied France goes into hiding with help from a schoolmate.  This is not a true story but I think it depicts what many went through.  I would recommend this movies to be shown in high schools by their teachers who should be prepared to answer some hard questions.  When I was in grade school we watched movies about the Holocaust and I was stunned that people could be so cruel.  The Jewish community has been targeted more than any other religion and it is our fault.

Reagan (2024) 40th President of the United States.  I couldn't help comparing him to the President now and what it means to democracy.

Watson - a tv show.  Season 2, episode 9  was interesting because it showed how IA can be dangerous to children.

Today I heard on the news that Trumps stated that the President of the Ukaine has to play ball.  Let me get this straight.  Putin lied about practicing war games when he actually invaded Russia.  He has been killing people to no end, but it is the Ukaine people who have to give up their land to appease this brutal dictator.  Anyone who cannot see that Putin has no respect for Trump and is playing him needs a double espresso.

Today,  I have a lot of work to do and having two colds back to back has not been helpful, but my priority today is to write my Christmas Cards and get them out sooner than later.  Yes, I will be working too.  Good talk.

 

Suicide Ideation in Children under 10 years old. AAMFT Conference continues (notes)

 73% of community self thought of suicide  of eight.  60% did not have a mental health diagnosis.  70% of moms did not know that children thought of suicide.  Children as young as six, understand the concepts of death and suicide.  Where do children learn about suicide?  They learn it by video games, on line and my own experience with children includes watching  television.

 Welcome Parent - Child Discord:  Transform the experience of Conflict Part 1- V116.  Psychologists Drs Kat Scherer and Elizabeth Sylvester website :relationship based treatment.com Relationship - Based Treatment of children and their parents:  Integrating neurobiology, attachment, regulation and discipline.  Do I embrace conflict?  No one really loves it.  May feel disreguated, avoid it.  Personal history activates.  Some of us are very sensitive (therapists).  50/50 in session of conflict resolution.  Book:  The Power of Discord.Children will learn comfort and skills.  : Unrealistic expectations of child.  Embarassed others see this conflict.  Children learn how to feel and regulate discomfort.  Communicate and seek resolution.  Diverse opinion - expansive and creative.  Self awareness and interception, reconnection and repair is possible.  We can surpress children.  What happens is the child becomes a people pleaser to avoid conflict which is not healthy.  Conflict resolution - promotes growth, standing up to herself (child) is ok.  It promotes self esteem.  Their perspective is worthy of being heard.  Learn where there is different desires - respect growth, and compassion for others.   Learning to listen, take a break, conflict and resolution helps to understand all family members.  It teaches that parents boundaries are positive.  Eg.  nine year old female is explosive - curses and screams and tears things.  Parents are stressed, irritated and angry.  They are also worried, fearful; guilty.  The child is also miserable.  She feels like she is a bad girl and kind of stuck.  Heated moments:  when we  experience conflict we are in a poor state for addressing it; when calm the conflict feels distant.    (as usual any errors are mine alone)

To be continued ........... 

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Humour of the Day

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1D44rp5fxg/ 

Our failing Health system needs serious attention

I had my own experience at Sunnybrook Hospital and am one of the one's who walked out prepared to die at home if I had to  - details in an earlier blog.   The emergency room was full of loudness, and I had a 10 hour wait to just get triage.  Triage should be immediate to determine seriousness and priority.  

Trauma Informed - continues notes. AAMFT Conference

 Students with involved fathers earned higher grades.

Help couples goal to shift from being right to being connected.  Track and highlight bids for connection - eg.  "I noticed you give your partner water."

From function to connection.  Clarity in communication.  Repairing mapping after rupture.  Creating a secure attachment.  Nurturing- increased intimacy.  When safety is felt, trust follows (check out Gottman Tools).

Working with ambivalent clients.  Part 2. Are they owning their own contribution to the marriage?  What is their attitude towards divorce.

Discernment Counselling

-Not interested in couple therapy to help gain clarity and confidence in their decision about the future of the marriage, based on a deeper understanding of what's happened and their marriage and each person's contributions to the problems > an honest look at the hurtful interaction patterns in the marriage (this can be done in couple therapy sessions).

12% of couples who divorce think they could have done something to save the marriage. 

A friendly reminder that I am in the process of closing down my practice but will still provide you with notes from conferences I have attended.  Though I may still stay with one membership, I shall be focusing on my books and writing the next one which had to be paused.  I attended a writing event yesterday.   

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