AAMFT Conference - Notes……Continue - Adult Attachment: Developing Secure Attachments.

How this affects Couples and Families

Same function as in Childhood.  Need a secure base; someone to support them, protect them, offer them security and nurturance, particularly during stress and invulnerability.   We are seeing more insecure adults now than 20 years ago.

Pre-occupied attachments -  need close relationship; seek approval from other and fear being detached.  Overly dependent on intimate others and cling to partners; are hypersensitive to unavailability or abandonments.  

Extremely jealous etc…  Have great difficulty making independent decisions.   Rely on others but needs many opinions.

 

To be continued.

Tid bits - Loneliness again, some stats etc.

 Watching the news during the weekend, there was another cry about education cuts, and  to have high school students learn on line more.   Then I was reading some articles from magazines, one from a fellow student at Uof T who went on to study at Oxford.  I always liked him so was interested that his focus is on loneliness.  FR Gerald Ryan "wants you to know that you are not alone."  He states, "My vocation calls me to be witness to inclusivity, to belonging, and to the inherent dignity of every person.  He wants to "loosen the grip of shame and silence that so often surrounds this experience and open pathways towards hope."(Canadian Jesuits, 2026 pp 18-19).   The article continues with a stat.  Loneliness has reached epidemic levels in recent years.  A 2021 report from Statistics Canada found that 1 in 10 people aged 15 or older always or often felt lonely.  Fr Ryan indicates that loneliness is not just a feeling but "an urgent pastoral and ethical call."   I agree.  So it is ironic that in our society, our leaders fail to recognize the importance of having youths socialize, learn to play and work together more and this gets a failing grade in online learning.  We need to gather people more together and look at the benefits.  Look at FIFA how it has brought people together with sports.  Yes, it has also brought problems to light as well such as many Canadians not being able to see a game due to lack of affordability.   We see a rise in greed and exploitation with leadership failing to protect the average person and aiding the rich to be more powerful, so they can gain.  We are huring in Ontario.   Nearly 300,000 Ontarians left emergency rooms without treatment last year.  There are four new hate crime laws being introduced.   Where is our money going to if not for our benefit?  Youths have been targeted from foreign entities to commit crimes including that of hate.  We need to unite our young people and respect them as individuals offering them the optimum support to be the best that they can be.  We have a lot of work to do, to reverse the greed and we need to be able to recognize it when we still have the ability to vote.   Do it wisely or live with the consequence.

Zellers disappoints, but thank you for the popsicle.

There has been quite a controversy about Zellers returning.   Today was the opening day at Orfus Road which contains an entire road of whole sale buildings.   People were wondering, why Orfus?  Well, because me thinks it is another warehouse.   The Press said it had a restaurant of the past.  Nope, it has a food truck and if there were some benches and chairs set up, I may have had a grilled cheese.  The Press promised us surprise treats and when I was at the lineup for a cashier I was told no.  I asked about the promised restaurant.  I was informed that the food truck is a restaurant.  I informed her that I would note that.  All the freebies I was informed happened earlier.  It was about 11:30.   There was lots of Press busy with their cameras and there were balloons and lots of Zellers souvenirs.  I parked next to City Pulse news and on my way out I was informed by a member of the press that my popsicle looked good.   It actually was good, so I got my treat.   If we bought anything there was a sign indicating we can get a strawberry or blueberry popsicle or water.  I chose the strawberry - so the girl directing us to the cashiers lied to me.  I got my treat - so there.  They didn't really have much that impressed me.  Their prices were jacked up and it was made to appear that we were paying half price.  I did buy two Italian microwaveable small dishes for the same price that I would pay at Homesense.   They had overpriced bath face cloths which I would have bought, but didn't.   I needed bed sheets for the summer and didn't see any.   They had the same capri's which I already have an abundance of and bought years ago, dresses, all casual and I did buy a night gown which had pretty flowers and comparable with something from Walmart.  I had to get a helper to take it down from the wall.  All in all, there was nothing to inspire me to return and I wasn't over joyed.  I was asked if I wanted to buy a zellers bag to put my items in for a dollar something and I declined.   I didn't bring a bag from the car because I thought they would give that for free.  No way hosay.  At least I got my popsicle and it was good.  I nodded when the Press man mentioned it looked good and wish I had continued to say something because a woman approached him right after and told him how familiar he looked and she wouldn't stop talking to him.  I actually felt bad for him.   It was amazing that she never seemed to stop, to take a breath, not even as I drove away and I thought he was going to cry.  Anyhow,  I went to Home Depot right after because I needed some oil for a chain saw I bought to cut my bushes and tree branches

and I hope I don't cut off my skin.  I told the saleswoman helping me to find the oil about Zellers opening today.  She insisted that Zellers had closed years ago.  Another woman stepped in, said she had just arrived from Zellers and told us not to go.  She continued that she would give them six months before they would close.

You know that is too bad.  Zellers is an icon.   What were they thinking?  A commentator was stating that they are seeking a younger crowd.  Not going to happen, me thinks.  They did have one happy senior with purple hair at the front of the store singing and dancing to a 70 or 80 song.  Bye Bye Zellers.

(If I am all over the place - sorry.  I am exhausted but promised you a blog)  I missed a meeting with Sisters of Crime to go to Zellers.  I think I shall watch a movie.  I listen to my body when it states rest!

What have I been up to?

 A lot!  I cannot imagine how time just flies.   I have my heels on the floor to slow down but it doesn't seem to work.  I haven't forgotten you and I know I am falling behind.  This weather that has changed from snow has me going out and making fun a priority.  I am still watching the market and it hasn't gone up so I sit patiently as I crave pets and vacations away.   I have attended more writing webinars from my two associations and the American Guild.  Recently I watched a talk about agents but after listening to their introductions, I left since they seemed more interested in minority groups.  I am always lucking out there since the beginning of time.   Others didn't fit my genre.  So, I left the room.  I am always learning of more scams targeting authors.  There is more that could be done about these annoying small time criminals.  Every time I insult the midgets something happens, but it is so annoying.  Anyhow I did go see Steven Spielberg 's Disclosure.   I will watch anything that Steven touches.   A tv show based on a true story named "Soul on Fire"  is based on a true story about John O'Leary who received burns covering 100% of his body.  There is a book out, "On Fire".   This is well worth watching.   I also found a new restaurant I really like and will write a review for you with some photos because it is worth a visit.   I know I still have to continue to tell my story about my holiday and I still have lots of notes to provide for you.  It shall come.  I am also thinking of writing a blog elsewhere because I was swarmed here with ads that did not belong to google.  Quite frankly with all the the years I have been here I have received about $20.00 and nothing recently.  Considering I have up to 4000 readers monthy I have to wake up and smell the coffee and try to make some money.  I am still in the learning and thinking stages, but it shall come.   I will probably drop shopify and though it is a Canadian company I am charged in American dollars.  I will probably transfer to Go Daddy which is an American company which charges me in Canadian dollars.  Shopify doesn't seem to help Canadians so I will probably say bye bye.   Please be patient with me while I sail into transition.  Good talk.  See you tomorrow.

University of Toronto Magazine - Spring 2026 edition, p33

 Caitlin Maikawa an assistant professor at U of T's Insititute of Biomedical Engineering, co - develped PRIM, a swallowable pill that releases harmless blue dye when there is inflammation in the intestines and the toilot water will turn blue when inflammed.  The pill will cost less than 50 cents (let's keep it from being exploited).  Seven million people live world wide with IBD (Inflammatory Bowel Disease).  Earlier detection can now result in adjusting treatments faster, potentially preventing serious harm and improving quality of life.

Remember when I tried to sell my house last year? Well people still want it but are waiting (for me to decrease price) Not going to happen people.

 Quaint Toronto house is a rare find for under $1 million but still needs work http://www.blogto.com/real-estate-toronto/2025/04/510-northcliffe-boulevard-toronto/

Had fun at Motive event

     The first photo you see here is our poster boy.  Actually, he is an author who was keeping our tent from flying away.  Nice guy.  You also see three young intelligent women enjoying the event and I thank them for buying two of my books.   I hope they enjoy.  I am sure I shall be notified.  Then there is me holding one of my Christmas gifts -  a writer's coffee cup from my baby sister.   I always enjoy the university environment full of inquisitive brains.  I had a nice weekend and the fun hasn't stopped.   You'll learn more about that tomorrow.
 

Hope to see you tomorrow or Sunday at Motive - I shall be signing and selling my books

     I am all ready for tomorrow or almost.  I just have to load books in my brand new plastic containers bought at Walmart.  I usually keep my books in their original boxes but it shall rain and perhaps thunderstorms to boot so I am trying to be as prepared as possible.  The good thing is that we will be under tents this year and that is a bonus.   I don't have my lovely poster this year because it went missing last year at the same event.  I do have a cartoonish image of me and that will do for this year since other places don't want bulky signs.  I haven't made up new book markers because I am still not sure which web site I want to continue with.  However, I do have my new business cards made up which came in the mail yesterday.  So, today will be somewhat of a relaxing day, just tying up loose ends.  

     I do hope you come and visit me.  You don't have to buy a book, but do come and tell me that you read my blogs and if you follow me on facebook. 

So, again,   I shall be at table nine sharing a table with fellow Crime Writers of Canada Authors each day,  Sat Jun 6, 26 and Sunday, Jun 7, 26,  from 1100 hrs - 1700 hrs (5pm).  I am usually early because I give myself plenty of time to find parking close to the event.

It is at 73 Queens Park Crescent,  University of Victoria, in the University of Toronto.  It would be off St Charles, East side.

See you tomorrow!!!!!!!Bring an unbrella.  Sunday may not rain.  Eitherway I shall be there!

Good talk!!!!!!!!

  

Loneliness (AAMFT Conference 2023) USA

 

22% of Adults report feeling lonely and isolated most if not all the time.  47% of people report having no meaningful relationship in their lives.

Challenges and Barriers

Money -  17 % of adults declared bankruptcy or lost their home as a result of heath care costs.

33 % stopped therapy soley because of cost.  38% of adults or family member did not seek health care because of cost.  Insurance pays 14% less while making billions.  350 individuals looking for therapy for every one mental health clinician.  Where do we go from here?  How Marriage and Family Therapists shape the future.  The kids are not ok and neither are the adults.  Mental health disorders have been on the rise since 2020.  

Mood Disorders -  21% of adults have a mental health condition.  Second leading cause of deaths for children 10-14 years of age is suicide.  31% are adults between 18-25.  One of eight emergency room visits are mental health related.  Loneliness is a global health crises.  

Loneliness, loss of connections and its impact on Mental Health -  39% more are getting some type of MH  in 2022 vs. 2019.  Innovative new way to take therapy to the people.  Relationships matter.   Intergenerational trauma and the impact of parental/family of origin has made its way to mainstream.  Harvard “happiness” study makes another resurgence to the popular media.  Tuning inward, tending to the healers.  Prioritizing our wellness as a model of sustainable care.  52% of therapists reported feeling burnout this year.  Self care is not enough.  Cultivating self - compassion - mindful awareness, self kindness, common humanity.  Shortage of professionals - financial challenges with payers- a challenge and often inequitable road and licensure.

-inadequate support systems for clinicians and students (for professors).  Systemic oppression and bio permeates all our professional layers.  Health disparities show up in every aspect of treatment.   How do you cover for something that never ends?  Representation doesn’t exist for most.  Things are changing.  Therapy speech is everywhere.  Mental Health disorders and relationships are being openly discussed by celebrities and the general public; social media.  

We need more professionals.  There will be graduating MFT’s but will not practice because they are already burnt out.

     When I decided to retire in December 2025 it was after asking the College Regulator questions and having different people answering differently.  Needless to say I was frustrated.  The college decided to provide tests, to all every five years on top of all the required extra education.  With all the intensive education we have had,  I began to lose respect for the College (Moral Injury).  Even though I believe that the public needs to be protected, that alone should be their job.  They imposed more work upon themselves therefore requiring more people thus some not really knowing what they were doing from my perspective.  They were also insulting and condescending inspecting files and when handwritten calling it chicken writing or something to that effect and letting us all know that.  I found that disrespectful to the therapists out there.  Days before I retired I was informed at a group event that the college stated no one retires from psychotherapy.  So, when I decided to retire, I was informed that retirement is not acknowledged and won’t be in the future or words to that effect and that my title would be that I resigned.  Really?  My advice from mentors in the past was to stay under the radar and why which I won’t share.  Now I have the time to study the Toronto Housing Market to make the right decision of when to sell without worrying about accommodating clients or the high cost of Registration, Insurance and courses.  That is all for now.  I shall continue to provide my notes to you until I am all done and then just focus on Writing Corner.  This weekend I will be selling my books at Motive in Toronto and will provide you with at least one more blog about that event.  I do hope that if you are in Toronto you will visit me.  Take care fo now.  Always feel free to ask a question.

Time is flying - thoughts of the week

 I just want to wish you a great weekend and be careful if you fly.  I don't and should be safe on our railroads.  Of course now that there has been an investigation at the airport perhaps those in power will listen to experts in the field - Police.   This is the same place where the gold went missing.  What are the hiring practices and why when they are flagged are they allowed to be employed?  Who hires these criminals and what are their connections/qualifications?   I also have seen absurd results from people not qualified trying to ascertain if people are guilty or not enough to bring to trial.  Well, that is why we have a democtratic society where we can vote people in and out.  If some feel they are too imprtant to explain themselves, there may be an adjustment period to find someone more responsible.  I am curious if people who have been victimized and are innocent are going to sue.  Money talks.

     I am amazed at how quickly time flies.  I am still slowly updating and de-cluttering and upgrading.  Well not really upgrading.  I am getting there.  What I don't need, is going to the front of my lawn for others to take.   I am thinking about erecting a sign on my lawn about my books.   I can but there are so many rules about that and again there are security concerns.  I have ordered business cards for my books which if I get in time will be handing out at Motive.  I love summer and during the writer's conference, I mentioned to someone that maybe I should consider going South for the winters.  I mentioned I love Disney World.  The writer gasped, "They're all replublicans in Florida."  My response was that I didn't really care about the politics,  I just wanted sun and Disney.  She replied that they had crocodiles.  Now that I am concerned about.  Well, for now I shall stay put.  There is a lot of excitement in my city.  My neighbourhood has become a tad more quiet with the construction.   I have debated placing the house back on the market but I am losing the debate.  It is still a poor market for sellers.   Buyers if you don't buy now you will miss that chance.  People want a house but don't want to pay high prices.  Sellers sell when they have to.  Do I have to?  Nada, but I would like to.  Bring me an offer or disappear is what I kindly tell the vultures.  So,  I want to plant some flowers, trim some trees, go to the gym.  Oh yes the gym.  I was there the other day and an older man approached me when I was on the bicycle.   His wife (I think she is) told me not to be afraid, that he was sick.  I noticed he had a heavy weight in one hand hanging firmly.  Don't be afraid?  I have to admit I kept a close eye on him, especially when he went behind me.  I could just see it.  "Toronto woman died after being attacked by forceful blunt injury to her head with a gym training weight.  The woman was cycling and trying to read the Centurians when another gym member cautiously approached her and raised the weight, slamming and forcing her head open.  There was no one else in the city gym at the time aside from his devoted wife.  Silva Redigonda was known for her charm in the community and enjoyed writing books for fun.  She shall be missed.  The assailant has not been charged due to mental related health issues.  His wife is devestated."

That's all for now world.  Good talk.  We shall start with psychology notes next week.  June is a busy month, but I always have time for you.

     

Corruption or Incompetence at Transport Canada - You choose

 

Writer's Corner

 

     I am on my backyard deck listening to the sounds of my city.  There is the roar of construction by the City and by contractors rebuilding houses to fit multiple units.  I think back to my cruise and the peacefulness of nature.  It is no wonder that it has been difficult to concentrate with writing.  I hear the warning sounds of vehicles moving backwards and nature has been blocked out.  I hear no birds.  Last night I had the same agent as last year try to come to my backyard but my beautiful friend began barking and off he went.   This time he left two cards with the same message.   I have important news from him.   I sent him an email this morning and spoke of trespassing and unethical behaviour the real estate board may be interested in and he has backed off.  It’s unfortunate that at times we have to threaten the law and regulators to keep what used to be a profession honest.  I still mourn the loss of my two paintings which disappeared with the staging.  

      Even though I haven’t done much writing, I renewed my gym registration where I pedal and read at the same time.  I debated joining another club to swim, but I don’t want to deal with parking.

     I have been doing a lot of thinking about the book I am writing at leisure and all I have to do.  You know what?  I don’t have to do anything on a schedule.   I can think all I want.  Since the conference and listening to everyone and attending webinars etc…..I have an image of half man and half computer spitting out volumes of books.  There are so many tips on how to write, but I know how to write.   I don’t know business except for all the cons out there and there are many.  I had one person claiming to be a policeman reach out on facebook saying he wanted to be friends.   Normally unless I meet the person, I reject them as friends.  Most are people I have worked with around the world.  But, this particular person claimed to be a police officer and writer and I suspect he is neither.  I told him I would check him out first.  He asked how I would do that and so strike, he is not police.   He sent me a chapter of his book which he was selling on Amazon and there is no way this person could write what he sent me.  He was selling a book, I am sure  completely generated by IA.  He never reached out to me again because he knew that I knew exactly what he is.  There are too many books out there now being sold and it is not by the person claiming to be an author.  At the conference a lot was about selling your books and maximizing your profits.   I am not good at that because I have always been in the service of others.  I am slow in that department because my focus is on writing stories.  There are about 6000 new books published each day and some are just awful.  I was thinking about my own writing and found myself telling someone that when I write it is like someone cooking who has done so for years.   I know the basics as I have been writing since I was a child.  You know what I mean all that stuff about nouns, verbs, structure, plot etc…..My passion for literature was a hobby an escape from the seriousness of other courses.  I loved creating stories and creative writing.  So,  I explained myself as similar to a home cook who knows what ingredients to use and sprinkle without the use of a cook book, one who uses a dash of this and an experimental test of that and manages a delicious dish.  This is what I do.  I use all of me to create a story which I may alter at any point or go into another direction or add a new character and there, I have my own master dish.   How do I get it out there?  I’ll let you know.

Theology Notes continues

 The Davidic Covenant (Interculteration of Sinai Desert > City

1. Rise and Fall of Saul (Islam 8-15)  
2. Rise of David (Johnathon) (16-23)
3. Jerusalem and David Covenant (Johnathon 25, 6-7) 

     Incalteration -  God of Moses and God of Sinai Covenant - semi nomadic life.  Covenant is one that is moveable.  It is on the move.  You cannot pin this down on God.  Whole institution of food gathering.  Is the God of the desert, who can intervene in history?  Is this God also the God of creation, this God who lead us out of Egypt, who helped us survive the desert, also the God of civilization.  Our God is also one who brings us into tension.  My last week’s question:  How can God demand life of sin?  To appreciate it, see how it can be used in other text- Principal.  Never read a text simply on its own.  Read other texts.  We can look at the text in the political view but it can be read in another.

to be continued with  In the Shadow of your Wings.

    

My Vacation - Trying to get there

 Well, I finally took my long necessary holiday.  So, this too shall be part of my blog.  It was expensive for a four night cruise including train fair (business) at $4000.00 from Toronto, or was it?  I thought that the taxi to and from the cruise was included but no it wasn’t and that was infuriating.  In Toronto people really try to please you and that did not happen, not even under the threat that I would not recommend the trip, nor take it ever again.  So here goes - my relaxing trip.

I had ordered the taxi from Beck (Beck is a long standing taxi company in Toronto and they are managed well by a woman married to a fire fighter.  That is all I take in Toronto and I recommend them).  The trip from my home to the station cost about $25.00 and I added a tip.  Once I boarded the train, I was on my own with the suitcase which I may refer as my brief case.  It is a Walmart, Air Canada special which usually suits me fine when I go anywhere by car.  However,  when I packed,  I had to be careful since it filled up fairly fast.  I only had room for one jacket, one set of spring clothes and the rest of the trip for hot weather.  My carry on cotton gym bag which I bought in Kenya, carried a thick Stephen King book which I never opened.  I left Toronto as it was going to warm up and entered Kingston knowing there would be a cool down.  My suitcase was too small to keep it where I usually do - in the luggage compartment.  I was informed by the female worker, that I had to keep it in the overhead compartment which for some reason, I couldn’t lift that high.  The female worker informed the passengers that they could not place the suitcases overhead for us because imagine their backs at the end of the day.  Well, my solution would be to make more baggage compartments - this is first class?  However, when I asked the male Via worker, there was no hesitation.  Thank you.  

     I don’t drink because of the sugar in it and my pharmacist taking a hissy fit if I do.  All I had was about three spoon full of wine at Christmas and that was enough to have him take a flip.  All free on the train and at meal times on the cruise, so they are making a deal on me.  The food was fine on the train.  I had a delightful elderly man from Montreal sitting beside me.  His mission to Toronto is top secret but I did find out that it was three times a year.  He was well dressed and looked like a professor, but in my experience professors love to talk.  He did not.  I focused on my coffee and the scenery and before I knew it, I was in Kingston (my shortest trip ever by VIA rail).  Now I had a new problem.  The elderly man’s tray had not been cleared and I was trying to leave the train.  He was taking his time, while I remarked that I did not want to end up in Montreal.  People were now boarding the train and when I finally manoeuvred around him (I had the window seat and I also had my seat changed for some reason) - no big deal.  I asked a tall handsome man if he could take my suitcase down for fear of dropping it on the elderly man’s head.  He provided a wonderful smile which lit up his face as well as mine, and gallantly performed the task for me.  At this point there were many people coming through and they suggested I go the other direction.  Since I had no choice, I did so to find out that there was no way out.  I returned when it cleared and looked at the VIA workers.  When I saw panic in their eyes,  I felt doomed.  I was going to Montreal and would miss my cruise.  They began talking on the walkie talkie while the female employee told me how sorry she was.  The male on the walkie talkie explained to her that I had been blocked from exiting.   To be continued.....

The Violence Project - notes continues

The reason  shooters leak information is because they want an intervention.

Insiders -  Physical security alone is not enough.

*****In crises - know the signs; crises intervention.  Suicidal:  Suicidal prevention, not punishment.  Leakage :  Reporting systems, relationships.  People get fired and come back to shoot as well as school suspensions.

Off ramp -  Resources of promoting on how to promote safety with one another.

FIRE ARMS:  The elephant in the room.  Second Constitution.  80% of shooters were getting them from family, home, friends and gifts.   If security/storage of firearms, then the shootings could have been prevented.  In the USA, there are 50,000 deaths a year.  A small portion are the shooters.

Violence is scripted in our (US) culture.  Mass shooters, study other mass shooters.  They get radicalized on line.  There is opportunity.

One who was bullied said, “I was almost a school shooter.  When you literally have nothing to lose, you can do anything and that thought is absolutely terrifying.”  One school mate invited him to his house and gave him pie.  No longer did he want to kill his classmates.

 

Question:  Why more prevalent in USA than other countries?  Longing for connection (Depths of despair), suicidal, alcohol/drugs.  The major contributor is able to get fire arms, but not only.

25% of shooters have a hallucination or delusion.  People with no power, wanting power.  There was a recent study of the military (US) 1/4 of mass shooters, 50 out of 200 have a military background and about 15 out of 50 had proficiency in marksman.  Must not stigmatize.  Transition of military to civilian life is a very difficulty transition.  In many cases, one is discharged from service because of mental illness or other problems.  There is a lack of resources for mental health care and not enough beds.  They need someone to check on them.  In one case, a caretaker who connected with a student prevented a shooting.  Even though they have a duty to report - key is what is going on afterwards.  Concluded.

     When we here in Toronto had a massive summer shooting downtown, I remember at a later conference that this particular shooter had problems with women, since they were not attracted to him.  The hospital here in Toronto received notes from the USA hospital where they had many patients who had died or were injured.  This meant so much for us in Toronto.  It is important that we recognize how this impacts everyone and how everyone involved needs support.  We need to support each other as neighbours during these tragedies.   

The Violence Project (notes)

When attending this conference there was a tragic shooting in Maine.  There was 16 seconds of silence for 16 killed.

     The speaker was from the Faculty of Michigan University.  The school is still traumatized.  The shooter had no connection to the university.  It was a random act of violence.  Today he also had an email from a student at the time.  He is still having PTSD.

     How to stop a Mass Shooting Epidemic,  A book cronicles -    The Violence Project.  How to stop a Mass Shooting Epidemic by Jillian Peterson, PH.D. and James Densley, PhD

theviolenceproject.org

     Jillian used to work on death row.  They wrote to prisoners and some wrote back, wanting to know their life before the shootings.   Also interviewed were people who knew the shooters, first responders etc... Mass shootings today are more violent and frequent than any other time in history, nearly six times every year.  

     Who are the Mass shooters?  Average age is mid thirties.  Clusters in age in 20's and 40's are transitional points in life.  Crisis point is pivital.  Certain locations tend to age.

Race and Ethnicity 

     White men are majority.  White men are under representative,  black over representative.  Work shooters - usually people of colour.  Latin communities - very close to families, which is why not as many shooters.

1.  Shooters are insiders - 30% work shooters.  

     Insiders - make it easier to prevent.  We can identify the warning signs.

2.  Shooters are in crisis - Total 80%  (oopsie)

Families of Shooters:

1.  abusive, neglectful - a lot of childhood trauma.  Often parents have their own MI issues.

2.  Parents knew something was wrong but didn't know how to help or connect son to resources.  Shame-afterwards.

3.  Parents know something is wrong and son is in crisis and then actually buy a gun as a gift.  Thus a court case of having responsibility.

Shooters are actively suicidal.  31% prior to attack,  40% during attack; 59% died at scene.

To reporter, "I hate MOndays."  To commissioner - wanted to be shot dead by police - tried suicide attempt but failed.

One sister reported that her brother went from what's wrong with me to blaming others.

School -  pick someone from school.

blame religion.

*****Key Point of intervention - 50% leaked their plans ahead of time.  25% studied others, left legacy token.  Usually a criminal charge and usually a felony.  Usually charged, even children.

     I am going to continue this next week.  I want to finish this before moving to another topic.  I am also going to take some R+R by spending time in the sun which just came back slowly and reading a Stephen King book.  I shall talk more next week.  In the meantime, balance your life with work and fun etc....Try a new hobby, spend time in nature, sing and dance and try something new.  Good talk.

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Theology notes continues

      Berit Covenant -  Dominant -  Relationship between God and Humanity.

Gifts/Tasks -  The weight of the Sinai Desert (I was there for six months which is detailed in my book: For Love of Country - Military Policewoman) is the task.  Sometimes you need to rest.  Even God did it (on the 7th day).  There is always an interplay of gift and task.  

Descendants and Land -  two big issues.  This is a way people are blessed.

Already in Genealogy - Sarah is barren.  

     How is the one reject, treated by God?  A whole theme here.  Why is one chosen?  You are not chosen for yourself.  You are chosen for others.  This theme is worth noticing.  There are not too many women who speak to God.  Sarah does.

Abraham promised third blessing.  Abrahamics promise is not only

for Israel but for all humanity.  These promises, are they not basic for survival?  There is a fear that if a tribe is not strong enough, it can be taken over.  A deep longing and value.  Wells are important.  That is where men find wives and Jesus speaks.  What is land if it is not a source for others (and other things as well).  Abraham is the descendants of three fathers - Kslam, Jews and Christians.

Sarah is barren.  Land is barren.  All they have is the promise.  God comes to Abraham in a dream - “Do not be afraid.  Your rewards will be very great.”  Abraham objects.  Noah was given a task to build an ark.

“Your ancestors shall be aliens in a land for 400 years.  As for yourself - this is the deep sleep or darkness…”  On that day, the Lord made a covenant, a berit.  Jeremiah 34.  Notice ritual.  Covenant usually had a ritual of what would if not.

Assignment:  God appears to Hagar two times to return to Sarah, “and  be obedient to her.

Meetings/Stepping down/ First Author event sales of the year - Motive

I just attended a meeting for retired Federal Employees. They are looking for volunteers, new members and those interested in advocating. I have now officially stepped down from all volunteer positions. I shall be enjoying life, writing and of course having fun as a priority. I have a full packed schedule regardless. My next book signing and selling my own books will be held from 11:00 to 1700 hrs (5pm). Saturday and Sunday 6 and 7 of Jun 26, with the Crime Writers of Canada. This will be hosted by Motive at Victoria University (on Uof T campus), 73 Crescent Park, Toronto.

Remember I always make myself available to sign/sell at bookstores and anywhere else.

If you are free come and visit me at table 9. I will be sharing with fellow writers. You are sure to meet many interesting people.

 

To Anonymous regarding Pedophiles

I had to remove your comments because first you did not identify yourself and second I would be liable if your accusations against this Psychiatrist is false.  I looked the person up with the Physicians and Surgeons and there is no complaint and the person is active.  You may contact the Physicans and Surgeons and file a complaint.   You may also report to the Police.  I believe that the Person is in Ontario.   I welcome comments but there are also laws against false accusations and there is a judicial process in place.  A person is considered innocent until proven guilty.  If you have a complaint please direct them to the proper authorities.