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Thoughts of the week

I can get used to doing the minimum of work and enjoying myself more.  For some reason more people than normal have asked for couple therapy and unfortunately I have had to still decline, since my house is still staged as I display my for sale sign.  I have been to Niagara Falls a few times for fun and am looking forward to moving there.  This time I saw a guy wearing a Canada is not for sale sign rushing about with an angry scrowl and I sure wouldn't want to deal with him as a Canadian, let alone an American.  Really?  I am rethinking getting anything like that if the attitude may be misconstrued.  Canadians need to remind themselves that this is not all the States - this is one man who has lost perspective of what America is.  Most Americans believe in a democratic country and know right from wrong, including who is the enemy - those who invade countries and try to take their resources.  So, I may wear something Canadian but that it is it.  I want Americans to feel comfortable when they come to our country.  

I have my eyes in Niagara Falls but also realize that I have a life here in Toronto and am wondering how to transfer all that.  I have a book event to go to at the end of the month and another one which is bigger - The Word on The Street, which is being held on King Street near Thompson Hall this year.  I have been assured that I shall find parking.  That is happening 27/28 September 25.  So what events are there for authors in Niagara Falls?  I don't know.  I take Toronto for granted because it is my home town.  I think of it as a town.  I think of Niagara Falls as my cottage.   However, unfortunately I cannot afford both.  I am pretty determined to go to Niagara Falls.  I let my physician know what my plans are and he told me that he has patients who have left to live there.  I asked if they had problems finding a doctor there and he laughed saying that they still come to him.  He assured me that I could have video calls.  That was encouraging and why not.  He sends me for lab tests and blood tests and of course we could have a video call instead of coming back home.  Notice I say home, because Toronto will always be my home.  But it is time to leave the nest.  So Trump you cannot buy Canada but I will sell you my house.  How's that?  Good talk.  I still have photos to show you.  Have a good weekend.  If you ever have a question to ask either about books or therapy, please feel free to ask.  That will give me something to talk about.  It has become very routine for me.  What do you think?

W5 - Disturbing investigation - Sleeping with the enemy

Do you remember that case where a man was convicted of drugging and raping his wife along with other men in France?  She had been completely unaware of it.  Well we have a reporter who hails from the States and has become a Canadian.  I find her investigations always interesting but this one though interesting,  I have been watching in segments for my own mental health.  I do this with anything disturbing just for self care.  When coming onto my blog now it indicates that some might be disturbing and though I couldn't think of anything I wrote as disturbing, this one is and so now I agree.  This is very disturbing and I was wondering if I should post it and decided that knowledge is important so people can be aware and defend themselves if need be.  This is the true story of Jane Doe, who one week before her wedding received disturbing images of herself being raped and tortured without her knowledge since she was drugged by an ex boyfriend.  I don't want to say too much, because it is posted.   Apparently there is a world wide dark web of these deprived men who torture and rape etc...their girlfriends and wives without their knowledge.  I would like to see the dark web completely disintegrate after all the culprits are identified and put in jail where they belong.  Then the healing for all can begin.  

Sleeping with the Enemy: A W5 investigation

I will be signing and selling my books at Queens Park, (Victoria College) Toronto

 It's been rather busy though I haven't taken on any new clients because I am still in the process of selling my house in Toronto to move to Niagara Falls.  Every once in a while I see the perfect house for me in Niagara but I want to sell mine first.  Today I want to give you a heads up that on Saturday and Sunday from 1100 to 1700 hrs (5pm), 28 and 29th Jun 25, I will be at Queens Park (Victoria College) selling and signing my four books.  Please come and say hello if you are in the area.  

Ray Rudowski ITV News Dec 27 89 Canada's Military Prison

Therapy for Individuals

Therapy is losing the stigma it used to have.  People are beginning to understand that mental health is as important as health for the body.  People come for therapy for different reasons.  Some just need to release the tension that has been building up within them and they need to talk to someone whom they can trust.  The relationship with one's therapist is very private and too often I hear that a partner or relative etc....want to know what is discussed.  I have been told that the relationship is intimate and not to be shared.  If you are seeing a therapist, how would you define the relationship?   Studies have demonstrated that the relationship with the therapist is even more important than the knowledge the therapist has.  My opinion?  That you find that therapist whom you find comfort with.  I remember in 101 being instructed that in the old days one would confide to a favourite aunt but that those days have changed.  Sometimes a person has to take a step back from themselves because they are so overwhelmed that they need to take a look at their lives more objectively.  Some will come to therapy for one reason and determine that what is actually harming them is something quite different.  You can become so overwhelmed that you don't know what is happening anymore and you just need the tools to stop, re-examine your life and finding yourself in it.  In 101, I was instructed that two months of therapy is enough.  What I have come to realize is that everyone is different.  What may take two months for one person, may take a year for another or three sessions for someone else.  That is all for today.  I want to talk about Doors Open later in the week.  This is when our city opens the doors for areas you would normally pay to go in or other points of interest.  Til then, take care of yourselves.