You have two people coming from different worlds, you join them together and what happens? Well you tell me? How is your relationship with your partner going? Is it an equal relationship? Are you okay with the unbalanced? Do you have quality time together? Why not? Are you ok with that? Are you living separate lives? Are you happy in your relationship? Are you ready to work on your marriage? Are you on the verge of separation? Are you having second thoughts about getting married because you have learned....you suspect.........you don't think...........
We all come from different worlds in some way, some less obvious than others. I remember in my undergrad days studying social psychology from one of my favourite profs. We learned that it is not opposite who attracts but what we find in common. That trait in your partner that makes you feel, you knew him all his life. That is some trait that may be in your mom or dad. That trait you find so adorable, will be the thing that drives you crazy later on.
We learned that there are chemicals in the brain that gives us the feeling of romantic love which lasts four years (or is it 5? I should check notes, but I would be one year off and no time to check notes). After that in most cases the relationship may turn into a very good and close relationship. Of course it may not and after the endorphins stop working, you suddenly realise this is not the person you married. So you spend more time working on your car, computer or have an affair with someone you think you understand, but it may just be those endorphins. It is called the triangle. You escape working on your marital problems by finding a third relationship. It keeps you from your partner. Can you work on your problems? Is it possible to salvage the relationship? Yes..........but you will have to wait for another day because I now have to go. To be continued next time.
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