Why wait until you are married to sort out your differences? Some organisations/religions offer marriage preparation courses. However, some do not. I know of one person who went on a marriage preparation course and learnt so much about himself and his partner, that he found himself no longer being able to go through the marriage. Does that happen to everyone. Of course not. But if there is a problem learnt before the marriage, than perhaps it is a good time to explore why.
We are attracted to those who are similar to ourselves. You may feel after one date, that you have known this person all your life. You have. There is something in that person, who has a similar quality, to someone who has been or is close to you. After some time though, you may find that what you thought was charming, may become quite irritating. This is part of social psychology. However, it is in Pastoral Counselling theory that I discovered that pre-marriage counselling is quite practical. One question that we were asked by Dr Beech this week is, if it is possible for only one person to partake in couple counselling? The question was rather rhetorical to more senior students. The answer is yes. I have had that opportunity. Is it ideal? I do not think so. But, it is better than no counselling, if one partner is not willing to attend as well, or does not have the opportunity. In couple counselling, it is the relationship that is being explored. What do you think?
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