The Internet Murders - continues https://www.silvaredigonda.ca

“Tomasso’s roots were from southern Italy, and his sense of humour was always getting him into trouble, especially since he had no sensor to turn it off. Philip looked over at him. “Very funny, Romeo. Why don’t you take yours off and see if that makes a difference for her? On the other hand, maybe the sight of you will just finish her off.” Philip was much taller than Tomasso, who was short for an officer, but these days what did that matter, joked Tomasso. Equality for all, tall or short, fat or skinny, smart or stupid, the force opened up their arms to all. Good old-fashioned police work went to Public Relations, Tomasso liked to say, when it suited him. Philip smiled at Tomasso, who kept him entertained at the worst of times. He was a good partner. He knew that he would do anything for Tomasso and vice versa, though it took a while to get there. Tomasso’s demeanour usually made people take him for a fool. That worked to his advantage, because Tomasso was actually one of the smartest cops he had ever known, with a heart just as big. ” Excerpt From: Silva Redigonda. “The Internet Murders.”

Thinking about podcast. Is this of interest to you?

Well tonight I shall be joining the Sisters of Crime where four hosts of popular podcasts "share their secrets for creating compelling content, building an audience and maintaining momentum when developing a successful podcasts." I love writing stories but my primary work as a therapist curtails that more than ever during this pandemic. I'll attend this event tonight to decide if I should add this to my social media for my books and perhaps my practice. Right now, I would prefer not to have extra clients unless it is an emergency. The pandemic has increased the amount of work in this arena. I have also had a small emergency of washing machine failure which of course requires immediate attention. That will shortly be taken care of as well. Next week I should have more time for blogs. I will also be attending another lecture of "Cancer during the pandemic." Of course there should be something to share from that as well. I will eventually go through everything and thank you for your patience and attention. I will like to upload some more of the Internet Murders for you to read as well. I shall try to get that done tomorrow. If you buy a book from me, I shall send you an autographed copy. I have completed writing about half of my next book. It is scary, me thinks, since it scares me too. Imagine that. https://silvaredigonda.ca

Response to Understanding a Soul Care question

Silva Redigonda Question: Highlight one or two things that you found to be significant in the handout or chapter and what did you find puzzling (one or two things). What I found significant in the handout (Understanding Soul Care) is pg 101 which indicates that Western psychology of the self has been greatly influenced by Descartes's "I think, therefore I am, contrary to "I am because we are; we are because I am." The latter being African spiritual philosophy has been identified as being closer to the Christian understanding of self. I have observed that in our society, we have a focus of ourselves which is very much a me world. We tend to lose meaning in basic humanity. I found it puzzling that we should not give to the poor because they are less fortunate but because God is somehow present in those who suffer(106). I find this notion that doing so is condescension or pity, misguided. I think that everyone, Christian or not, whether they see God in another or not, should contribute something of themselves to others because they are indeed less fortunate. If we are more united in compassion regardless of religion (if any), beliefs and culture than we may just be able to survive this world. I am also puzzled that, "Christian spirituality is also manifest in care of God's creation" (106) as a response to global crises. I think that taking care of this planet is basic biological survival mode at this point. Of course I may be wrong, but I found myself stirred by these statements. I found the chapter from our text very significant regarding Ignatian spiritual direction and how the author combined spirituality with psychotherapy. I think that the year waiting period is rather long, though I understand it may be necessary for the process of the intense knowledge about the person. I am puzzled that we don't have therapists trained by our own church combined with spirituality as a separate degree program. Maybe you can start one at this school? It's being a crazy week so to offer you something I have returned to responses I have saved. This I shall delete from my files. I hope you are well.

Promoting Compassionate Psychosocial Spiritual Care and Counselling During COVID 19 Crises Demands - Challenges - Responses (Continues) notes 2

Eugene Dufour spoke of his work, training emergency response persons to learn how to tell devastating news to families. Many attend sessions during their free time. Last year 28 responders died by suicide. Eugene spoke of one patient being from a war torn country. To protect her sisters from being raped by soldiers, she placed manure on her sister’s faces. When asked if she did the same for herself, she said no. She wanted to be the target, to protect her sisters. When I contemplate the stories of my own clients who faced horrors before coming to Canada, I am struck with awe at how some just for love of Jesus and refusing to convert are raped, imprisoned or killed. It reminds me of a recent movie I watched about how a farmer in Vienna refused to fight for the nazi’s and was beheaded as a result. His faith in his religion was profound. Eugene spoke of a patient who would constantly scream. When he went to see her, he noticed a tear and with a tissue, he wiped away her tear. When he did this, she stopped screaming. He had touched her cheek. He found volunteers who would be able to do this every 20 minutes. She stopped screaming. The human touch is so powerful, is it not? Someone caring for you is powerful. Eugene recommended a book, The five invitations, by Frank Ostaseski about discovery of what death can teach us about living fully. Eugene spoke about how medical staff during the first wave of this pandemic were devastated as bodies were placed in bags and moved to a parking lot. He spoke about having to pull back from watching the news and getting the information from work. I personally practise balance at all times, especially because I am in private practice. I do watch the news but get most of my information from seminars and conferences etc….I try to eliminate the noise to get to the facts. However, there are those that the news is their work and balance is even more important for them. How can their employers help them to keep healthy? Eugene talked about our own rituals. What Eugene does for self care is give his maple tree a wack. He has a timer, gets up and wacks his trees at five. Of course his neighbour was concerned and then he explained it to him. I knew a social worker who sat out in his car when he arrived from work and to make that transition, he would tap his face, calm down and enter his home. Again a neighbour was concerned and he explained what he was doing. What I noticed I was doing after each client, was leave my office and go wash my hands, then I was good for the next one. Also, one of my pets notices if I have a long day of being exposed to sadness. He sits up against me and licks me. I also like to dance and would love to do it outside, but I don’t want my neighbours coming around and being concerned. Maybe I should move to the country and dance away. Eugene told us that we can expect another 18 months at home because of the pandemic. Country is starting to look pretty good. Eugene told us of a little boy whose dream was to meet Hulk Hogan. He got his dream and died eight days later after meeting him. His little sister later got into a fight at school. When he talked to this gentle soul, she had a fight because the other student had been making derogatory comments about Hulk Hogan. Eugene does a lot of work with veterans. He spoke about the attitude of not letting anything bother you, such as the sick….the attitude of sucking it up. Long term care was already suffering being short staffed. They lost 30% more during the pandemic. He spoke about secondary trauma - “their story is what I carry home.” Vicarious trauma - compassion fatigue “mentoring” - someone focusing on our well being. The Compassion Fatigue rate. Four patients died in the first week. Nurses got close to them. He talked about one opening the window after a patient died and letting the breath out, setting the patient who died free, acknowledging what was given and what was gained. Eugene went to 9/11. He was asked to provide a de-brief. They had dogs and handlers searching for cadavers. How do you cope? To be continued……..

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Promoting Compassionate Psychosocial Spiritual Care and Counselling During COVID 19 Crises Demands - Challenges - Responses

Monday I attended a full day workshop with TCPCE (Toronto Centre for Psychotherapy and Counselling Education) held by Eugene Dufour. He is with Huron Perth Palliative Care Outreach Team, Palliative Care, Bereavement - Trauma Specialist and Death Notification Trainer. It was a long day, an emotional day and a very productive day. I was quite impressed with the speaker and believe I talked to him at a Conference a few years back where again he impressed me. He said he will be sending us all the slides and that we can remove his name, put ours on because what is important is that the message gets out. I would never do that but after being to so many seminars, conferences etc….I am at times disappointed at how rigid some are about slides. I agree that it is important to educate and let the public know, however, I also believe it is unethical to take someone else’s work and claim it as my own. So, here goes, from my notes because I don’t have yet have the slides. Once I receive them, I will definitely share. Eugene is a Psycho Spiritual Care Specialist and I shall refer to him as Eugene. Much of what he talked about resonated with me and thus that stirred up much of our shared experiences. He spoke of one person who had come home to die and when the parents were called they said that they did not have a son. I have found this happening as well, when children do not turn out the way their parents would like them to be. I see adults struggle and conform to what their families want at their own sacrifices. I see this not only in dealing with grief but also family systems. I worked as an intern with HIV patients, cancer and palliative care. I have to commend people who work for years seeing so many suffer. In my own practice I have the luxury of selecting my own hours, my own EAP’s etc…..I can manage self care to be the best I can for my clients. For others working in retirement homes or hospitals cannot afford this luxury. I have closed down my office during the second wave and went totally on line or telephone. But there are those who physically stay with patients as they die and be there with them so they do not have to die alone. Working with HIV patients was not my plan. However, no one wanted to work with HIV on my team and when the Head nurse said we were needed, I knew that if I didn’t volunteer, no intern would be available. That time in the hospital I witnessed so much pain and suffering that I would come home and just stare at my garden engulfing myself with nature. However, now, years later, I know I made a difference in many lives. For two months I was also working daily. I would never recommend that. It takes a toll on people. I knew it was for only two months and that made it workable. Again, I was in multiple programs. I saw families completely disowning children because they were gay. I have spoken about one, whose family was only concerned if they would get any money from him. Imagine a mother refusing to see or care about her dying son simply because he is gay but ask if there will be any inheritance for her. There are incidents of course that I can never share, but that is one of the reasons why I recoil when I hear about how wonderful mothers are as their children suffer. Of course this is not all mothers and perhaps only a small percentage. I don’t have the stats but that is something Clergy should be mindful as they tell children to obey, especially when they are being abused. This does not only involve mothers. This involves all facets of society. A niece may tell her uncle that if the uncle marries in his late age, he will be disowned by the family. Unfortunately this type of bullying often works and the uncle is left behind mourning a life without his love that could have happened. It is so interesting for me to work with families. I see the dynamics of how one who seems emotionally balanced can become a shadow of themselves when surrounded by family. I can see a seemingly mild person become the dominant aggressive person in the room with family who are completely controlled by the person regardless of their education or career. The take away today is to think of your own family and your position in it. Are you living the life you want to live? Are you an adult and feel controlled? Are you a teen being abused? Are you surrounded by so many people who think that they know what is best for you, regardless of your own feelings? Perhaps it is time to examine your life and what it is you really want? Perhaps if you are a parent with grown children, you should ask yourself, why you feel you can control them? Are you abandoning your child right now because they think differently than you or act differently than you would like? Perhaps it is time for you to reflect why this has dominated your life to the point that it effects the love of someone in your family? That is all for now. Work is calling. To be continued…..

What does the brain look like? We are interconnected. We are also divided - Oh and stay home

When I attended an online webinar with Adler School of Psychology, what stuck in my mind was when a picture of the brain and that of the universe was shown. The retired President told us that the brain looks like a picture of the universe. She said that we are all interconnected but we need to feel it for change. She said that when a psychotherapist doesn’t know what to do, be curious. Being curious means taking part. There are so many ways of providing therapy and care for those who suffer. I had never connected the brain with the universe before and would have loved to keep examining those slides. As I think back at the slides and how we are interconnected, I pause to think of why I hear so much about division rather than being connected. There is so much strife and yet in so many ways we are all the same. Yesterday at a weekly meeting one person raised the issue of being Canadian versus not. My question was to ask the client what does it mean to be Canadian? I learned once again about the pain the Asian community is suffering because of ignorance; that is what racism is - ignorance, prejudging, shaming etc….and why? If I was not in the profession that I am in, I would not be hearing all about this and to this extent. I am wondering at what point did we begin to move backwards? Canada is a place as is the States where people came to make a better life for themselves. Canada is a country where people come for freedom, an equal opportunity for their children, a sustainable life. Are we providing that as much as we could? Just last week I was listening to an Aboriginal woman speaking from Vancouver about how absurd it is to her, to hear people in Canada complain about immigrants, obviously because the only original Canadians are the Aboriginals. Toronto is a very multicultural city and we need to protect the rights of everyone. It is no longer ok to be neutral. We need to speak out when one person thinks he or she is better. I think back to a club party I attended a few years ago and a woman of British descent began verbally attacking me in a condescending way because in her opinion I was a foreigner. I wasn’t focused on her core issues. I found it amusing as I watched another British woman whom I know from another occupation, defend me. I still found it amusing because I am privileged. I found it amusing because I am a long standing member of the club and I had the power to do something if I wanted to. I found it amusing because I have an abundance of confidence. However, if that was to happen now, I would take it serious, because people who do this make many suffer. Ignorance in the law is no excuse……. So, this is what has been going on this week for thought. Today I attend another webinar regarding treating mood disorders and addiction. Tomorrow I attend another webinar regarding Compassion Focus Therapy. My phone just activated with an alert, “A stay at home order is in effect. Only leave home for essential purposes such as food, health care, vaccines, exercise or work. It’s the law, stay home. Save lives.” Learn more at ontario.ca/covid response.” Yup, I have been pretty well doing that for a year, and if everyone did that we would be in a much better place but we are all different in our belief system. There are still people who do not believe there is a pandemic and I would suggest a tour of the Intensive Care Unit which is becoming over burdened. Corporations, it is time to step up and pay your people a decent wage and provide them with sick leave. It is time to stop trying to evict people because they cannot pay rent for the time being. It is time that we all stop division as soon as we spot it and unite as one people. I will shortly get my vaccine and I cannot begin to tell you how wonderful that feels. I wish I didn’t have to wait 3 months for my second dose but that is another story. For now, think of that lovely picture I saw of the brain and the universe which were identical and what that means to you in our interconnections. Keep safe. Next Monday I have a full training day. It involves grief which is rampant these days. What do you think?

What is hope? Something for you to think about or share.

I was looking at a usb I have saved and thought I would cut and post some of what I have written in the past. I can add this so you have more than one entry a week. If I were to talk about hope now it would be more elaborate. However, this thought is pleasant to me. What is hope to you? What do you think? Take a few minutes. What is Hope? By: Silva Redigonda My hope is to someday live in a glass house by the waterfront with a dog at my side as I walk along the beach. Is that hope or a dream? Is dream and hope synonymous? Is hope for all? Skinner conducted animal experiments and discovered that when one can no longer control one’s environment, one gives up trying. A dog that suffers electrical shocks and resigns himself to acknowledge he will suffer pain no matter what he does extends to other forms of torture that kills the human soul. Can one understand hope by understanding what it is not? Hope is a perception of what can be. I think that there is a possibility of world peace. Do I really? Actually I do not. Therefore I have no hope for world peace because I believe that it is impossible. Yet, I believe that something must still be done to decrease the probabilities of war. Is that hope? Is hope being a realist? Is hope being a survivor? Hope can be simple or complex. Hope is what it means to the person who has or does not have hope. I hope that the flowers I place at the front yard bring joy to others as they walk by and appreciate nature. I hope that because I love to stop and appreciate the lawns of others which are aesthetically pleasing. I am hoping that someone appreciates what I have to offer my community. I am hoping that someone stops and smells the roses (what a cliché!). Am I superficial? Perhaps I am to some and not to others. For someone who has no food, she may hope for food if there is the remote possibility of getting food. If someone has no hope for food it may be because he is dying, isolated and alone with no possibility of enough food to eat. What is hope? It is so much to so many different people depending on their own stories of their own lives. Has life been kind? Has life crippled? Has life taken away souls and hope is only a senseless word? I have hope. I dream of my glass house by the water, walking along the beach with my dog at my side as I ponder the universe because I have hope – of endless possibilities.