Is it time for psychotherapy?

When is it time to get therapy?

The short answer is when you are ready.

    The stigma of having therapy is something many have problems with.  The old notion of thinking was, there is nothing wrong with me; what will people think? I am strong and I don’t need anything to help me.  It is not me having the problem, it is her and vice versa.  No one cares about me.  What will I do? 

     Sometimes it is as simple as taking a step back and acknowledging that we are so consumed with what is happening in our lives, that we cannot focus on what the problem really is.  There is too much static so to speak to see clearly what we are dealing with.  Having someone who is not judging you but really trying to help you, can help you process through these filters.

     We cannot, no matter how much we want to change someone, force that upon someone.  The idea of he or she will change when we are married, when we have a baby etc….may simply not be the answer.  But we can change ourselves, if we want to and even that may be very difficult.  Are we ready?  Are we ready to rediscover who we really are after letting down the barriers?  Do we understand why we allow ourselves to be beaten?  Do we understand what it is that motivates us to keep up the behaviours that is tearing us apart? 

    The short answer of not getting therapy is quite short.  What is keeping you from being ready?  Do you have the need to tell someone what is bothering you, but you can’t?  Can you not afford it?  Can you afford not to?    How do you trust someone again?  Will you be judged?  What will people say?  How will I be respected if I am weak?  First of all, getting help is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength.   What is stopping you, from helping yourself find yourself again?  Are you in a place where you want to be?  If not, why not?