Are you happy?

At times people tend to dwell in the past where something horrible happened to them and they get stuck.  It can be a horrifying experience, it can be complicated grief and it can be almost anything that has happened to you where you feel numb, anxious, sleeplessness, tired, and you just give up.
     What I am going to suggest today is take a look at yourself.  You may not fit in any of this, but you know that you are not happy.  Many times you may feel that if only you could find your soul mate all your problems will disappear.  You may feel that your mate is not fulfilling your needs, so you seek another, else where, living two lives.  You may feel isolated.  Where are you in this picture?  
     Can someone else fulfill you? 
     We cannot change other people as much as one may want to.  "He will change".  "I can make her change."
     Take a look at your life.  What is it like?  Is there anything you would like different about it?  How can you go about to change it? 
     I recommend that you start a journal.  Write what is happening in your life and how you feel about it every day for two weeks.  After two weeks, put it aside for one week and then go back and read what you wrote.  Do you feel different from when you wrote what you did?  Why?  Is there a theme?  Have you a deep sadness which is consistent?  Do you notice that you have different emotions which equate the different experiences?  Does it make sense to you?
     If you are noticing that something is wrong, why not go for a complete physical and see if it is due to something that may be changed with medication (such as hypothyroid or a chemical unbalance).  If you are physically healthy what is causing you to be emotionally distraught?  Maybe you know?  Maybe you think you know and it may not be that at all.  How do you find out?  Do you need professional help?  Are you ready for it?  Do you feel stigmatized by it?
     Life offers many options.  Some are in our control and some are not.  Are you in a satisfying relationship?  What can you do to help it?  Do you communicate well with your partner?  Do you need a positive change?  What do you think?