Humour of the Day

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Our failing Health system needs serious attention

I had my own experience at Sunnybrook Hospital and am one of the one's who walked out prepared to die at home if I had to  - details in an earlier blog.   The emergency room was full of loudness, and I had a 10 hour wait to just get triage.  Triage should be immediate to determine seriousness and priority.  

Trauma Informed - continues notes. AAMFT Conference

 Students with involved fathers earned higher grades.

Help couples goal to shift from being right to being connected.  Track and highlight bids for connection - eg.  "I noticed you give your partner water."

From function to connection.  Clarity in communication.  Repairing mapping after rupture.  Creating a secure attachment.  Nurturing- increased intimacy.  When safety is felt, trust follows (check out Gottman Tools).

Working with ambivalent clients.  Part 2. Are they owning their own contribution to the marriage?  What is their attitude towards divorce.

Discernment Counselling

-Not interested in couple therapy to help gain clarity and confidence in their decision about the future of the marriage, based on a deeper understanding of what's happened and their marriage and each person's contributions to the problems > an honest look at the hurtful interaction patterns in the marriage (this can be done in couple therapy sessions).

12% of couples who divorce think they could have done something to save the marriage. 

A friendly reminder that I am in the process of closing down my practice but will still provide you with notes from conferences I have attended.  Though I may still stay with one membership, I shall be focusing on my books and writing the next one which had to be paused.  I attended a writing event yesterday.