Power - Male Violence - Man and Masculinity (Social Science) notes continues

Every abuse of power (physical, emotional) comes from a sense of powerlessness. There are three steps Does something - Interpret (might be accurate or might not) < React. Power - position / personal. Power - Over/With - eg party. Respect - dignity. Power - Ability to act. Authoritorian/Authority < people subjected know what it is. Masculine terms and values - social science. Physical < men more comfortable. Emotional < women more comfortable. Spiritual. Power - Offensive and Defensive. Children know what buttons to push - Cry - getting dressed - power < due to powerlessness and then causes powerlessness. Abusing father may be beating son so he does not grow up to be like him. Probably came home with liquor on his breath the first time. Video - Among Equals - Groups - Boys - Share reading. Abusive childhood, same as most of the others in the group. If parents abused you, then the child will grow up to be comfortable and feeling loved in an abusive relationship. Powerless to be able to love in a challenging way, so interact in a way that is safe. Boys chase girls and pull off their tuque etc…to get attention from the girls because they like the girls. This is their expression because they feel powerless and when grabbing they feel the power. The girl feels victimized because he has power over her. Say no to a man asking to dance with you may cause the man to feel rejected. One man remarked that he felt rejected and unwanted by his parents and so he feels rejected again when a woman says no to dancing. Sexuality and Spirituality are related. Violating sexually is a deep attack. Intimate relationships are scary because it is the core of who we are. Boyhood- Fantasy - defiance/ action - extra privileges/ physical - rough/ violence - noise/unrestricted - adventures/hero/wildness (without hurting)/rude - natural body noises/competitive - independence/constructive-destructive. Male/Sports - Anticipatory participation - Team work (Sports prepare men for adulthood), competition, physical discipline (physical discomfort) socializes, morality both defined and non-defined; how to behave in the workplace, how to meet objectives in sports = objectives in work place. You don’t create your own play in sports; gives you ability to argue about trivial things: = politicians - man will talk about sports but there is also another level that is indirect. Is this management material? Can I trust this man? (men will build you things and not tell you they love you. Safety thing? 1. Why is so much money spent on sports? What functions to sports play? - Socialization, especially for males. 2. Social Control - entertainment in general. If public gives attention to one thing, it does not concentrate on something else. There is a certain amount of attention, sometimes good and sometimes not. Sports has been seen has having that type of control. A young person focusing energy on sports rather than other things. Focuses on aggression. It becomes part of the culture. It is allowed to happen - How to interact with others. You can act out negative feelings. Difference of spectators and players - Male aggression after super bowl (fan-atic). Europe is more mature than North Americans - a theory. Oppression never works unless oppressors allows it. Next week will continue with theology notes and then back to Man and Masculinity - Erotica and porography. Please be aware that there is a difference between psychology and social science.